Is extreme detachment normal?

Post Reply New Topic

I know that we can't pick up on the emotional states of other people, but is total nullity normal? A complete lack of any emotional "spark" with people I meet. I can learn to love and care for a person, but it takes time. A person could drop dead in the street in front of me and I'd barely blink. That has happened, near enough. I've lost several loved ones and barely blinked.

I refuse to call it apathy; I do care about those in my life, but I have to work around this overwhelming detachment. I have to try and think of words that may fit it, but I keep falling flat.

Is it normal?

Well if I could choose between "nullity" and "roller coaster" I'd definitely choose nullity - I see nothing wrong or "not normal" about it, possibly because I can't understand the point of (too much) attachment anyway, and have felt similarly most of my life. We haven't chosen this life or the configuration of our brains, and anything imposed by society as "normal" is only a product of years and years of conditioning by some who just happen to have a differently wired brain.

Your not the first aspie/autie I've heard this from. I do feel for friends/family I really care for & form an attachment too, but I can't express it.

Some people, I bond closely to - inexplicably. Others, I have no connection to whatsoever. And when I am upset about something, my emotional ties to other people and things tend to get severed or ignored in the face of dealing with that specific issue. If anything, I have apathy for people as a whole, some interest in individuals, and then enthusiasm for goals or actions.


M.

Most people aren't on my radar. There are a few people I care about, but the truth is if I didn't see them for a little while I can easily lose that feeling. On the bright side, though, I rarely expend the energy it takes to hate someone!

Nice to have even a small sample group confirm I'm not alone in being alone (har).

Good grief, this is such a reality for me! I never used to care for making facial expressions or nodding during a conversation with another person, and even now that I've picked up on these actions they still feel odd, and sometimes I'll have to let a person know that I'm paying attention or how I feel through what I say instead...

Hahahahah, sometimes when someone's shouting at me or getting really angry I tend to giggle or just flat-out laugh. Does anyone else do this?

Yes!