Making friends and Facebook

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I have a Facebook account, and I figured something out, I think. I had an old Facebook account which I deleted because I figured I have added more and more friends too soon. Now, I feel that my level of friends should reflect my level of social skills, which as an aspie, doesn't come naturally, but which I feel is ever-improving gradually every day.

I had 400 friends on facebook, and it wasn't that I was that social. It was just that I wanted to keep in touch with that many people if they changed phone numbers, email, or any other means that I would normally contact them with.

As of now I have about 123 friends. I either know all of them personally, or know them from somewhere else (several of them I know from WrongPlanet). I refuse to add anyone whom I don't know.

I don't add anyone I don't know either but I've accepted a request from 2 people I went to high school with that never said a word to me back then. One of them I realized is just networking for her sales job, because all her posts are about how great her product is. So I have 66 friends which is really low but it's manageable for me. The only people I intended Facebook for is family, so I can see pictures of the various grand nieces and nephews. I don't particularly want to have the "what have I been doing with my life" over and over. The answer is externally=nothing/internally=a lot, which most people don't care to hear about.

I usually only add people that I know, whether it be family, co-workers, childhood friends and classmates, and people that I
am associated through church and volunteer work.

One thing that upsets me about people (especially those from my past), is that when you send them a message or write on their wall, they never respond. As an example, my best friend from middle school was riding in a bike rde for charity and was looking for donations of sponsership. I wrote on his wall that I would send him a small contribution. I never heard back from him, even though he has been on Facebook since. Why is it so hard for people to reply to messages, or in the very least, ask "hey, hows it going"? People that I know today are more likely to respond to wall posts and messages.

This is why I find face to face human interaction to be essential. People have to interact with you, they cannot ignore via electronic means.

I have 30, the sad part of that is probably 3-5 are my family 3-10 are my girlfriend's family and the 2/3s of the rest are middle school friends I don't talk to.

I have 0 freinds, Really...

I started a fb page a while ago and thought it sucked so i dont use it anymore..

Facebook sucks..

i have a lot of friens on facebook half of them i dont even no i gotten to now on the intonet on msn, and message boards but a lot of them i would just say hi how are you maybe ask what they been upto that would be about it i love the games.. i have some family on there and friends from college but half the friends from college did not even talk to me.....

Facebook's just stupid. Used to be cool like in 2005, but now everyone and there grandma has an account, and it's just becoming another myspace.

I have more than one account. I have a personal account and a separate one for business. You can even consider using pseudonyms that Facebook will accept, lol. Maybe even a 3rd account to differentiate between different levels of personalness- 1 account for adding all your friends and acquaintances, and another just for adding closer friends (or deleting if things change, lol.) Don't worry about "offending" people either because people may do the same to you anyway. Or if the connections were meant to be, you'll eventually figure it out naturally with the other person/people. Easier said than done.

Facebook is a joke for someone like me. The only reason I signed on was because various family members urged me too as a way of keeping in touch. I would have been happy to limit access to family only but as a noob I didn't know how to set that up. Then someone noticed my name and requested friendship and blah blah blah and off we go. My friend count is low and I want to keep it that way. The comment some joker made after mine was on a friend's post and that friend has like 2,300 friends. It's ridiculous. My friends are either family,childhood friends or people I used to know in another town from being a bartender. When you're a bartender, everybody knows you.

Since you have a Facebook, maybe you should make it impersonal like one big advertisement, or make an impersonal account and get people to add you from there. Then talk about how your bar has great drinks and girls (and/or guys?) and that they need to come to your bar to tip you on your nights!! lol.

I have about 35 friends on facebook. I probably could have had about 100 easily, but I only friend people that I'm close to. 5 of them are the rest of my family, and about 6 of them are friends of my family. The rest of them are all close friends that I hang out with, or people that I work with, etc.

I also make myself very difficult to find on Facebook too, since I'm not part of any networks whatsoever.

I have 823...

Keeping touch with my extended family & old high school acquaintances is the only reason I maintain a Facebook account. I don't bother with socializing on Facebook because I'm terrible at it, just as I am in real life. The site has its uses, and I tried to join a few social groups at first, but it's all cliques now (just like every other social site on the Net), and unless you've known everyone in the clique for a long time, they usually ignore you. I don't check mine but maybe once or twice a month - if that - and that's just to see if anyone I know had a kid, graduated or died, or something.

PS - the people you see on facebook with thousands of friends are just adding people they don't even know and have no intention of getting to know. Some people have this strange idea that collecting "friends" on that site makes them "look" popular, when in actuality they're only talking to a handful of people. It's easy to accrue "friends" who never talk to you. I receive friend requests all the time, but unless I know them, I ignore them. If they don't talk to me, what's the point of adding them?

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I love my Facebook account! I launched it on December 28, 2007, at the urgence of a close high school friend of mine whom I have credited for helping me develop my social skills. The site reopened my door to the friends I grew up with as I was a freshman in college at the time I launched my account. Today, I have 360+ friends and I love keeping in touch with all of them. I use the chat feature almost daily as it's fun seeing what they're doing now. However, I think my frequent usage of the chat feature was what led to my losing some friends, and some of them I was really close to.