What am I dealing with here?

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While this isn't a romantic relationship I'm talking about, this looked like the only place that could perhaps provide some insight into what is going on in my situation.

There is this acquittance of mine throughout my very recent years of high school who appears to lie on a constant and causal basis. First off in high school he claimed to hangout with the "popular" and "cool" crowd and went to their parties beach week etc., however when I asked one these clique members about him they really had no idea who he was. I also never really observed him associating with these school social groups ether. For example, also back in high school he claimed his family own a Porsche, a hummer, and other extravagant automobiles-they do not. Also he claims his parents are doctors, cologne salesman, work in prominent sales/management positions-they do not. Additionally, he claimed his father had memberships to at least two prominent country clubs in the area-they most likely do not. When college admissions time came around, he claimed he applied to schools like George Washington, Georgetown, Penn State, Columbia, NYU, Stanford, William & Mary and list goes on. He also claimed he got grants and scholarships from schools like Columbia and William & Mary, furthermore at the time he claimed he a candidate for Harvard Dental School and that he had an interview with them. When I hung out with him throughout the year after he graduated he claimed at first that he was going to a local community college but the first semester he would be going to Georgetown University in Washington DC, so whenever I hang out with him he claims to go to Georgetown in which he was making all A's at academically. Furthermore recently he claimed he was admitted to the University of Toronto and UNC-Chapel Hill's pre- med/pre-dental program. He also has a linkedin profile(which vary few people at this age have despite the immediate time after high school being the beginning of one's academic and professional career) in which he was seeking contacts and in which he most likely truthfully(one of the small handful of times) claimed to go to the local community college. On Facebook he always posts about how great things are going for him and his great wins in life and so, as well as trying to project a very good image of himself that stands out from your typical person on the site. Furthermore he claimed he is coming to the university I'm at next semester(which is still very strong academically and prestigious from Georgetown University because his brother goes there" and his parents want him to graduate along with his brother". Along with these pile of lies both small and big, he continues to reinforce periodically that he is getting all these great and prestigious internship oppertunites and part time jobs so on and so forth.

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I thought maybe he was only lying to me about all these things, however talking to people at school and at my part-time job who knew him from school, he told them the same or varied lies about his life and everything else.

I will post more later if it is needed or if anyone wants to hear more.

The question I ask is what type of person am I dealing with here?

Thanks,

I'm going to go out on a limb and say, "pathological liar."

Demented egomaniac; in denial over his current reality; delusional, needing a mental doctor!

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To me, this sounds like a case of insecurity or poor self esteem. If he was happy in himself, with who he really is, then he'd have no need to invent an imaginary life where he was more popular and successful. Once someone gets caught up in a web of lies like this, it's very hard to break out of.

A bullsh*tter. Lots of people do it.

He's a pathological liar. What he's doing is actually not that common. Lots of people will lie about one detail in their lives or exaggerate things. But lying about literally everything- especially things that are so easy to check up on- is not the norm and is pathological.

I once knew a pathological liar. Once I realized what was going on, I simply disregarded everything he said but enjoyed his company anyway. I treated it as something like Tourettes Syndrome. I wouldn't say, "what did you just say?!?!?" to somebody I knew had Tourette's Syndrome. I simply disregard the swears. You can still be friends with him. Just disregard the things he says just as you would disregard the swear words of somebody with Tourettes.