FreeSpirit2000 wrote:
Eye contact is no problem, it is just the 1-2-3 basics of human communication in my case.
I don't make eye contact directly because 1) most of the time I can't make out what is in their mind through their eyes, 2) as a musician, I also suffer from stage fright from time to time. One of the tricks of the trade you get taught in voice, as well as drama, classes is to pick a spot on the back wall of your venue (whether it be a theater, bar, concert hall, outdoor venue, or church) and concentrate on that spot. With the way my eyesight has been going (it sucks to be a diabetic, as well as suffering myopia, astigmatism and possible cataracts) I have to look downward in order to see the music, as I'm lousy at memorization.
I guess I'm also lucky that I was never formally diagnosed as OCD, since musicians are expected to be perfect in live performance. The only way to perfect what you are working on is to keep going over that sequence of notes until it gets to be second nature. The alto soloist in my church choir always thought I was a bit OCD. I looked at her with thevwhat are you talking about look? You also majored in music in college, you know as well as I do About what it takes to learn a piece of music for public performance. We musicians and actors can thank the recording industry for developing that little trait.
As a musician, you always hear the old joke, which someone asked the great violinist Jascha Heifitz (I Think, although any classical musician that can make in venues like New York, Chicago, etc., will tell you the same thing) when he was walking down Broadway in NYC, someone asked him, how do you get to Carnegie Hall? He responded, "Practice, Practice, Practice!"