Would this annoy you?

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There are not many things in the world that annoy me....screaming children, barking dogs, people on airplanes who never shut up...I can tune those out just fine.

So it's quite apparent that the things that annoy most people don't annoy me. But I'm curious to know if the things that annoy me, don't annoy most people.

One of the recent things which has been called to my attention as something that annoys me, is the following....

To get to the bathroom, I must pass through my roommate's room. This is nothing he has a problem with, he routinely keeps the door open and he's usually just sitting there playing video games. If I walk in there, I don't stop and say something to him, it should be pretty obvious that I'm going into the bathroom....that's the only place there is to go. Yet much of the time, when I walk by, he'll comment to me "Where ya going?"

I find this quite annoying because I feel it is rather apparent where I am going and I feel any elaboration would be a pointless conversation, nor do I wish to have a conversation, no matter how short about the fact that I'm walking into the bathroom.

He actually does things like this rather frequently. He will ask a question when the I feel the answer is obvious, such as "What are you doing with that can?" when I'm holding a can opener in the other hand, or "What are you doing with that whipped cream?" When I have it tilted over a piece of pie. I don't think he actually doesn't know what I'm doing because he will often make comments that simply state the obvious, such as "Your shirt is blue.", "You're holding a hair brush", and so on, and to make the situation more annoying, if I answer one of these questions, he'll repeat back my answer in the form of a question.

Him: "Hey where ya going?"
Me: "I'm going to the bathroom."
Him: "You're going to the bathroom?"

He seems to take great pleasure in engaging in what I consider pointless conversations, and I've not explicitly told him how much this stresses me, as I feel perhaps that my feelings about this issue are stronger than those of most individuals, and to take it up as an issue with him would be unreasonable.

Is it unusual for someone to be annoyed by such things?

That drives me nuts. I find the best way to deal with people who ask stupid questions is to give them stupid answers.

Him: "Hey where ya going?"
Me: "I'm going to see your mom."

Him: "Hey where ya going?"
Me: "I'm going to build a monkey from a kit"

Him: "Hey where ya going?"
Me: "I'm going to sharpen all my knives because the voices in my head told me to."

Now I've never had a roommate I wasn't dating or married to so you may need to adjust your answers accordingly. I find that if you activate peoples cognitive dissonance it is like a mental stun gun and they will ask less questions to not get the shock. Then it becomes easier for them to NOT ask the question. It is manipulative but effective. Just don't make them funny or people will want more.

In a word, "yes".

I suppose they're just "making conversation" or "being friendly" but being asked a question when the answer is self-evident is one of my major irritants.

That annoys me too. The question I hate the most is "What are you looking at?" when I am on the computer. I hate having to explain why I am surfing on a certain website, and most of all I hate it when I get teased for something I am looking at. The other day I was looking at a Matrix fansite and my brother has been teasing me about it ever since.

People who do that annoy me. My biggest problem is that I usually don't know how to interpret it. Are they trying to be funny? Are they being mean? Both? Or can they really not figure out something obvious? So I don't know if I should ignore them, make a joke, or answer like it's a serious question.

That annoys me, as well. The one that my mum loves to ask me is, "What are you eating, now?"

I just answer them. I know I'm borring. Somehow in the oraltorical world I am quite ret*d (context; Backwards regressing etc), however, with my literary skills ( I might not have the best spelling), but I find I am more effective and quite a phompous bore. but it's the only way I seem that I can write. It's like my fingers have a mind of their own.

I get really annoyed when i run into something and either curse or fall down in pain and tears (depending on how hard i hit the object) and someone says "are you okay?". I know thats only polite and that its part of showing empathy, i guess. But it really just pisses me off when its so obvious that i am not okay.

People asking me to explain the obvious irritates me too, but I haven't dealt with that a whole lot thankfully.

i can't really understand the concept of the rhetorical question, so yes, that would annoy me quite a lot.

Questions like that dont' bother me unless in excess. The fact that he asked the question again, repeating what you said would drive me up the wall and I'd just nod and walk away the first time. After awhile I'd get kinda upset. Rhetorical questions really bother me. But then again, a lot of unnecessary small talk/words with no meaning bother me and people who know me know I refuse to answer them a lot of the time.

Yes, that does annoy me. My universal answer to those questions/statements is "Guess" followed by a quick smile (forced of course) and then I continue what I was doing without waiting for them to say anything.

I hate when people ask me what I'm doing when I'm talking on the phone to them. I always reply, "Talking to you, obviously." Then they get annoyed. I hate talking on the phone as it is. My dad is the worst at it. He'll then ask, "What were you doing before that?" Does it really matter? I doubt they called just to see what I was doing at that point in time. I wish they'd just skip the chit-chat and go straight to the reason that they called.

That annoys the crap out of me! But throughout life I learned that it's just a way of making small talk. That's why it annoys us aspies, because we suck at small talk. Because they are so damn pointless, it makes us distressed when we have to formulate grammatically and socially correct answers on matters that don't matters to us and not even them.

But when I started facing the matter that people are just saying "hey, I like you, so I want to be with you and have a chat with you". My social skills started to improve a lot!

It still makes me so damn distressed and I get really tired after a small talk session! But people don't look at me as if I was a weirdo anymore. Not untill I start to pull the topics of my sole interest and shovel them into the person's ears.