Feeling frustrated...

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In my daily life, I feel so frustrated when I can't express myself to people, I find it so hard to put into words what I want to say to someone when I am speaking them face to face and on the phone. This is the reason why it has always been hard for me to make friends ( I am starting to make new friends through church activities, thankfully they are pretty accepting of who I am as a person) The person I am talking to (regardless if they know I have Asperger's or not) usually ends up getting inpatient with me because I just get stuck on something I cannot express into words. I wish my brain would work to where I could put into words of what I want to say to someone. Anyone else feel frustrated when this happens to you?

I usually try to keep saying the same thing using different words followed by the question:
Does that make any sense?
This gives them the opportunity to jump in and say
"no, I don't know what you mean when you said ..."
or "yes, that makes sense"
this usually keeps the frustration level down and the conversation going.

If you truly can't explain what you are saying it might be best to change topics.

I get frustrated when people don't understand me.

I've yet to figure out if it's all down to me not being able to explain/express myself, or whether it's down to people just not understanding...people, both NT's and ASD's, all seem ignorant and to like to talk without actually addressing whatever it is you've brought up in any real detail. I find time and time again when I ask questions no one actually gives me the correct answer, a specific answer.