People thinking less of you

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[quote="I got irked out because I started to figure out what one of my friend thinks of me. She feels like she need to care for me, mother me, nurture me: its not like shes even an older peer, shes like 6 months younger then me. Being that she doesnt view me as her equal. I understand how some friends are just caring people in general: thats cool. But it seems she places herself above me, she needs to take care of me more then her other friends. I know Im aspie, I still wanna be equal to my peers, respected. Im not her little sister gosh. [/quote]

If someone told me that id probably cry and love her to bits

I dont really care about being equal to anyone or respect just be lovely to each other isnt that simple enough? and if the person isnt nice dont waste thought on them

iv simplified everything in my head so its easy for me to understand

I never really felt this way until recently, though it's likely that I just never picked up much on it before. But I was talking to a good friend recently who was talking to me about 'defending me' in a sense against mutual friends who were exscusing some of my 'bad' behaviour as 'that's just the way she is' in a pitying tone. This wasn't too bad, I care for a lot of these people and the fact that they're willing to accept some of my quirks is great - but I thought I was less transparent and fit in a bit better socially. The fact that they're just accepting my behaviour with a sense of pity at 'that's just how she is, she can't help it' makes me a bit frustrated, and it makes it much harder for me to try and correct unacceptable actions.


I've been bullied a bit - back when I was in middle and high school - and had some issues with people I've dated looking down on me when I've told them...something I experienced just this week that I think will end the relationship once more...but for the most part, I think it's largely that I don't notice pity type behaviour that I don't have a problem with it.

But all in all, I hate being looked down upon. I'm incredibly ambitious, very intelligent and strive for independence. Being pitied or looked down upon, or even being treated as though I need special aid (which I sometimes do, sadly) only makes me work harder so that, in the future, this won't be the case.