Talking about my problems waaay too much

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I think this a really weird problem to have for an aspie, I divulge my issues and problems way to easily to my friends and I ask for advice way to much. Ive known from past experience people just mostly find this a bit annoying and thats it. Recently, this majorly backfired into some misunderstandings between me and a friend. Recently I started talking about my problems with 2 other friends. 1 friend I was just concerned about her getting annoyed. The other friend...I just thinking it might backfire in a way different way. Hes way different from my other friend and approaches things way differently but then Im still concerned. Ive been talking to him a lot about his roommate who I have a huge crush on and somehow that evoulved into us talking about me and my problems. He keeps asking questions and I keep giving way too much information. Ive managed to lessen the problem talk over the past few years but I can still go on and on about my problems. I feel other people would have better judgement to keep the problem talk only to maybe a psych and close friend they know they can trust. I know I need to a psych but its really hard cause I keep traveling back and forth between home and school. I do see 1 at home tho. Transportion is hard at school and thats where 95% of my social life occurs. I barely have any friends at home and I dont see them that often. Its hard to not talk about my problems with someone. If someone ever asks me something, my answers are often waay too honest.

I do this too.I try to hit the brakes when I notice that it just goes round and round and round.
A lot of is is usually about something that has happened and I dont understand it so I look for answers in others and sometimes fail to receive them and turn to someone else and end up feeling like an idiot when it just goes around in circles.
Too much thinking.I try to shut it off and believe the answers will come to me eventually.

I do this to. I know I am doing it, but can't think of anything else to talk about. No matter what the conversation is, if I join, I turn it to me and it is usually negative. I can see how annoying it must be, but cant seem to stop. I also tend to over explain the problems and go on and on about it.

I can relate to the overexplaining*lol*..I do that alot...and if I talk about it with the same person several times, more likely than not I will repeat half of whats already been said.Im sure its really annoying to listen to.

I overexplainn everything, giving details no one cares about. Internally I'm afraid people won't understandd what I'm talking about so if I give them 100% coverage there can be no doubt about it. I tend to either fall into the background or be unable to shut myself up. I have no middle area.

Two quotes from my best friend and things she has said about my communication, although this was long ago.She understand me better now.

1.I feel like Im your diary.You go on and on.
2.I feel like you think Im stupid cause you explain so much.

Ouch.

I have found that people have just started cutting me off mid sentence at work when I do that now. They just cut me off and go on with the conversation. I have noticed it a lot this last week or so and I am not sure if it is just me noticing it more or they just figured out this way to shut me up. It's weird because I have noticed many different people do it. I guess I appreciate it because they are not rude about it, and it stops me from going on and on.

I think thats heavily because we talk in monologues a lot. So we tend to go on and on about something and our vocal tone can be rather flat. I try to make it so its not flat so when I do get into a monologue...its actually somewhat interesting to listen to. We will include excess unnessary details in an ackward timing. I mostly notice this in my aspie friend from an outsider perspective. Its hard to really get a sense of whats going on because theres too many excess words and his vocal tones are very flat.

I thought that was just me! I get complained to a lot about my tendency to overexplain. But I never feel like I can get the right words to get the point across, so I have to use more words instead.

Im always being told I dont explain myself enough... I always have a problem finding the right words to get my point across but I dont tend to try to explain more and more until it makes sense... I get told to explain more all the time

Me too. I lived away from home last year, and everyone got so annoyed that they stopped wanting to be around me all together. I went crazy from lonliness and isolation, and now I'm back with the parents. I'm going crazy from lonliness and isolation again. And that IS my problem, I can't stop talking about it, and it's upsetting my parents now too.

Yeah I think aspies have a problem with not knowing how to use words to properly convey the right meanings. Many NTs can use fewer words because the meaning is implied. Whereas us aspies use so much excess words because we have trouble conveying the correct meaning. Ive been asked for further explanations constantly. Whereas once NTs actually catch on they can easily summarize a whole paragraph into a sentence.