How Many Friends Do You Have?

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Sparklehorse is my friend.

Why do there seem to be more bloggers from England on this website than from any other country?

Why do there seem to be more bloggers from England on this website than from any other country?

I'm from Pickering, Ontario, btw.

Being that I work and go to school I have a good number of acquaintances...people who know who I am and will strike up a casual convo with me from time to time. My friends however consist of...

My roommate
My doctor (also has AS)
My aunt

Wondering if those second two really even count? lol

Being that I work and go to school I have a good number of acquaintances...people who know who I am and will strike up a casual convo with me from time to time. My friends however consist of...

My roommate
My doctor (also has AS)
My aunt

Wondering if those second two really even count? lol

This is a tricky question, and one I was just thinking about this morning. I have 3 people, including my husband and my sister, who I trust and can share freely with and would happily choose to spend time with IRL, and I have a couple of really good online friends. Beyond that there are several people who would consider themselves my friends, but upon closer examination these "friendships" largely consist of them calling me up and telling me their problems, with me barely getting a word in edgewise. There is no true back and forth, although I am certain they would each argue vociferously that they care very much about me etc. The fact remains I don't feel like they actually "know" me, other than superficial facts. And these are some of my oldest "friends". Is this friendship? I am not really sure. I seem to be in a pattern of attracting extroverted people who want a therapy session, as in me quietly listening to their problems and offering occasional input, rather than people who actually have common interests and want to share equally.

I do feel really lucky to have a few core close friendships, but none of these people live at all close (other than my husband). I see that most other women my age (36) have a group of girlfriends that they go out and do things with. I don't have that, but I don't think I would want it anyway. I almost never meet a person that I would actually like to get to know past a casual acquaintanceship, and to go out and spend time with or invite over. And the far flung times when I do meet someone I feel a spark with, I have nooooooo clue how to make that connection and form a new friendship.

One.

These poll results are baffling!

I have 2 true friends here. My sisters, so so lucky to have them. <3

I have about 3 or 4 friends of whom I feel comfortable around and accept me for me. It's difficult maintaining friendships because I want them on my own terms but I try my best to keep in contact with the ones I know and trust. I find that if I can't be myself around someone than it's not worth my time and effort to further advance the relationship. Lately, I've been getting too stressed out trying to socialize with everyone even though I have a difficulty expressing what I feel unless I get to know you. But I've come to the conclusion that if you're not going to try and get to know me than screw you cause I'm not entertaining anyone anymore.

I will have to say none for the moment but I have 1 to 2 people I consider as friends but I don't know if they think that about me.

When I was in my formative years, I usually had one or two close friends at a time. Now as I have gotten older, I don't really have anyone that I could call "close" anymore. Most people are now acquaitances that I have met through different activities. Even the people that I grew up with, I clump under the group of childhood acquaintances. The relationship is usually maintained through that activity (church, volunteering, work, etc). These relationship do not usually go beyond the activity that you know them through, unless you see them out and about.

real friends?

none.

people who i speak to and potentially could be called "friend" suitable for my age?

one or two.

people i spend time with (internet or IRL)?

my kids and their friends.


i don't relate to other people. i don't match my age. that sucks: making it harder to find a partner also...

I had one friend last year, although most of what we did was just talking over skype or texting, we did meet up about 5 times... despite the fact we lived in the same building but our skype/text convo's could go on for up to 4-5 hours... Strange friendship we had. But he moved away and we barely ever talk over skype/text anymore so i guess that means i have lost him, i dont know what to say to him after 4 months straight of nothingness between us.
Apart from that I wake up, go for breakfast in the canteen alone, go to lectures, sit alone, come back home and spend all night alone... It's not just that i can't make friends its that i'm very rarely interested in people... such a hard find, and even then, the chances are i'll muck it up. I don't really know what to do, i'm not too bothered about having no friends but i know its mentally unhealthy for me to isolate myself 24/7

But it's strange, when I was a kid I'd have anywhere from 2-5 friends at a time