Clinging

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I've always had a habit of latching onto one or two extremely close friends and then more-or-less forgetting how to interact with the rest of the universe. The problem is, when those friends aren't available (which they frequently aren't, because unlike me, they have perfectly functional social lives... and they also happen to both live half the country away, in this case), I'm stranded. I have other friends, but I don't feel close enough to go to them for comfort or to talk about big, important, hard-to-say things. Sometimes I feel like I can ONLY talk to that small handful of super close friends... and then I feel like I'm being obnoxious and clingy when I'm around them, and I feel lost and lonely when they're away!

Does anyone else have this problem or have ideas for how to deal with it?

Yep... I do have this problem. I am very clingy to my parents and sometimes I cling to very close friends of mine. I have a bit of Seperation Anxiety Disorder too. I haven't really found a way to deal with it but I do know what you are going through.

Yep, I normally cling on to one person in social situations, and when I have no one to cling to, my social problems start showing. A perfect example is when none of my friends show up at lunch. I have no freaking idea what to do, I kind of just walk around aimlessly hoping I blend in with the crowd.

I think I've said this in another thread but it needs to be said again. I have a VERY serious problem with being clingy. When I meet someone who is nice, I want to see more of them and I think I come off too strong. It's like if they don't respond right away I think I've done something wrong and this irritates the NT's I try to be friends with.

I am like this too. If I feel like I am really close to someone, I will follow them like a lost puppy. I feel like I can't let them leave my side either. On Facebook, I am also like this with two of three of my friends, one is like a big brother to me and I used to be so clingy to him that I cried because he had to leave... and I would cry because I upset that he might forget me but he never did. It's the same with my two best friends.

I also can be a bit clingy to my boyfriend. He was stressed once and it upset him a bit because he overworks himself... and he told me that I have to be strong for him and even though I am like this to him, I know he loves me and I do wish I could just spend an eternity laying in his arms. I'm not allowed to cry, or he says I am breaking my promise to be strong for him.

He really is a sweetheart... that's why he feels bad when I cry. He doesn't want me to be upset because he can't always see me but he tries really hard even with his busy schedule.

But yeah... aside from my parents, I have attachments to people I care about. I am EXTREMELY clingy to my best friend Jimson... he's emo. He's doesn't have AS or an ASD but... just emo. He had problems with his fiancee once and I cried so much because he wanted to leave... I didn't want him to go because its so hard when he relates to me so much. He keeps his feelings inside like I do and we are both the loners... so we are connected.

But yeah... I could name quite a few people I am clingy too.

yeah...im like that

Yeah, i'm like this. I am extremely clingy with this boy i know and i have uncontrollable rages and depression whenever he is not there or he falls out with me. His friends don't like me, so they often bully me and bully him for being friends with me, so i get upset and confused. I don't really know what to do, he is the only person who can calm me down from my rages.

Au contraire. If I don't have a reason to see my friends (like school or work, for example), I'll lose contact with them. In fact, now that I left my old job, I'm once again without friends, because I simply don't care about talking to them when it isn't necessary.

The guys I've dated have gotten pissed at me for doing this when they leave my house:



Yes, literally.

Being alone sucks.

Your picture reminds me a situation that I had in middle school that my classmates will never seem to let me forget (20 years ago). I had a friend that him and I spent almost every evening together. Then my friend started going out for sports and spending less time with me. One day I had enough of my friend not spending time with me that I grabbed on to his leg throwing a temper tantrum as he was dragging me across the classroom.

I do this all. the. time.

I tend to go through phases though. Be obsessed with someone for a few weeks - then leave it.

Yes this is me. I tend to become attached to just one or two people, and the rest of the world ceases to matter... I don't find it very healthy though and wish I was better at interracting with more people as it is good to have a support network in place. I have never gone so far as to grab someone's leg though as they attempted to exit But, I don't think I am that clingy either these days... I used to be. Now, I actually find myself craving time alone and away from those I am attached to after a series of evenings with them.