Are you picky when it comes to friends?

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No. I'm not very picky about people,but there ARE certian things about some people that I absolutely will NOT tolerate(see the topic about what kind of people annoy you). I have all kinds of friends and accqaintances(I KNOW I spelled that wrong),and I like them all.


-SpaceCase

I wouldn't say I am picky as such, but not very forgiving when they upset me in any way, despite all of the good things they have done for me in the past. I have been known to drop people out of my life because I haven't been able to see past the issue that has angered me or hurt me. Suffice to say that I don't have many friends now, but a lot of acquaintances through work!! Jus

I am, I havent really had much problem getting friends but hate people coming over and waisting my time talking football and other boring s**t and knocking my music that they know nothing about but if they have simular interests i frequently have bbq's and invite them, if i wanted to talk to average people about common boring topics i would just go and talk to people at the shopping centre.
i forgive people quick and easy and most of my friends are very long term.

My standards are too high for most

I wouldn't necessarily say that I'm picky, its just that I click with a very very small amount of people that I come into contact with. I've been friends with all kinds, but it hasn't lasted for very long. And the people that I would like to be friends with usually don't want to continue to hang out and vice versa. You can't force someone to like you, as much as you can't force yourself to like someone else. Its no ones fault, but it still sucks.

Ehh... my standards are deceptively simple, yet MAYBE a percent of the people I see on the streets meet them.

Unless I know someone, I'll judge for a first impression... on the presence of (in any order): smokes, mascara, anything with 'Abercrombie' or any related name on it, heels high enough to cause permanent damage to the wearer, large amounts of gold and diamonds, anything that gives the same type of message.

Those types I won't even hold a door open for. Unfortunately they make up about 99% of the NTs I come across and maybe half us "crazies", regardless of mental condition. So yea, that could be construed as inordinately picky I guess, maybe shallow, but I tend not to have to deal with 'the herd' so much this way.

I have one major criterion and that'd be: the friend must be able to maintain a conversation with me about at least one of my interests that is not an interest of the friend. In other words, I really appreciate it if the friend is able and willing to learn something from me, just as I am curious and inquisitive about the friend. This one criterion seems to eliminate the vast majority of people.

Bonus points if the friend is actually willing to take part in the activity with me. But so far I've only seen family members do this with me.

No, as long as the person is not extremely physically ugly, or really violent, or a goth, but other than that not really.

I believe there is no such things as "friends". Remember Caesar thought Brutus was his best friend. The next thing you know Caesar has a knife in his back being stabbed by his "friend" Brutus while Caesar says, "Et tu Brutae" while Caesar is dying in the middle of the Senate floor.

I'm not as tolerant of other people as most out there. But I wouldn't say I was picky. I tend to allow for the fact that maybe I might not like someone or be indifferent to them when I meet them.

im acquaintances with many people but i truly respect/click with very few.

I'm paranoid, betrayal hurts, and the ones who know us the best are the ones able to hurt us the most.
So while i'll usually be friendly towards people who don't overly annoy me or behave in a manner i find repugnant, i will rarely, if ever, get close enough to someone that i am willing to trust them implicitly.

If someone treats me like an equal and tries to understand and include me, then they are definatly someone I would like for a friend. Not many people do that much for me though.

I'm quite picky.

They can't have AS.

I keep saying I have standards, but I keep getting put into positions where I have to ignore them. The only one I seem to be able to hold is that it can't feel like I'm talking to produce or a rock when I'm talking with them. If I feel like my cat understands more of a conversation than you do, sorry, you can't be my friend, but I can tolerate you. When people say too many absolutely moronic things, then I end up feeling this uncontrollable urge to stab out my ears, or at the very least their wind pipe. So rather than causing myself or them bodily harm, I end up having to remove myself from their presence.

Yeah, the whole betrayal thing sucks. Its even more fun when they feel the need to apologize and ask you to hit them to make things "even." I suppose that's marginally better than a "friend" betraying you and not expressing any remorse or regret. For that reason, I don't know if I can say that I really trust any of my friends. If anything, I trust them more than I trust most people, though I don't know if that is really saying all that much.