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11 Jul 2011, 4:05 pm

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11 Jul 2011, 4:41 pm

I was in sales for several years(please don't judge me, it was the only way for me to pay my bills.) During that time I learned one very important thing that I'd advise anyone(not just Aspies) to take note of. If someone you've never met suddenly approaches you and is trying to get you to like them, the odds are VERY good a sales pitch is coming. Salesmen need for you to like them and to trust them and they'll do and say anything for that. I would strongly advise ignoring them and going about your day. They might try and manipulate your emotions to make a sale, but remember that nothing a salesman says is to be trusted. As an aside, that's actually why I left the business. I was disgusted with the people I encountered and couldn't force myself to lie in order to sell something I knew didn't work.



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11 Jul 2011, 6:09 pm

johnsmcjohn wrote:
I was in sales for several years(please don't judge me, it was the only way for me to pay my bills.) During that time I learned one very important thing that I'd advise anyone(not just Aspies) to take note of. If someone you've never met suddenly approaches you and is trying to get you to like them, the odds are VERY good a sales pitch is coming. Salesmen need for you to like them and to trust them and they'll do and say anything for that. I would strongly advise ignoring them and going about your day. They might try and manipulate your emotions to make a sale, but remember that nothing a salesman says is to be trusted. As an aside, that's actually why I left the business. I was disgusted with the people I encountered and couldn't force myself to lie in order to sell something I knew didn't work.


This reminds me of charity workers in the city. This charity worker tried to flatter me by saying my skirt was beautiful. Bam! Got my attention. I tried to be friendly but escaped by just walking away



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14 Jul 2011, 4:55 pm

So how do you tell when someone had the Salesman Smile?


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14 Jul 2011, 5:24 pm

gailryder17 wrote:
So how do you tell when someone had the Salesman Smile?


It's usually anyone who approaches you uninvited and immediately tries to gain your trust. They can do this by smiling a lot, or telling you their life story(which is almost certainly a lie) or they can even try to guilt you into talking with them. As I'd said, if someone you've never met is desperately trying to be your friend and get you to trust them, there's almost always a sales pitch coming. Caveat Emptor.



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14 Jul 2011, 7:23 pm

yeah i was in sales for awhile, retail sales. i was never good at it, always struggled. i tried outside sales with commission and i failed miserably. i hate the idea of people having the control, the power over my income. and even when everything makes sense for them to buy, they still dont. so yeah i play the game with the salesmen/women and know that they dont really care about me at all and when i walk away 5 minutes or 3 hours from now, they wont remember who i am or even care to help. plus since my answers are always short and to the point of their questioning and i find it odd to just instantly like someone and you know act like you're their best friend, i smell their fake BS from the time they open their mouth and give me that f*****g salesman smile.