Does anyone else HATE talking to other people on the phone?

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when the phone rings even....i get all worked up cuz i'm afraid someone's gonna wanna talk to ME. i always hope the call is for anybody else but me. and i reeeeeaaaaallllyyyyy dislike cell phones cuz it just seems to make it all the more frustrating when you're out in the world and they cut in and out. and then it seems like there is always a bunch of traffic either behind you or on the other person's line.
same thing with cordless home phones. like......enough static already! it's hard enough to express myself on the dang thing in the first place!

and my biggest peave is when i do call or get a call and the other person keeps saying, "just a minute, just a minute, just a minute" because they're talking to someone else or trying to do something else at the same time....

burn.....

I detest talking on the phone,I really put off phoning people if i can.
I can tolerate chatting to family,but would rather text.

Mostly yes. It's strange since in person I rely more on hearing voice infliction than seeing facial expressions yet I am lost on the phone. Maybe the sound quality throws me off, I don't know. If I know the person fairly well I do better but freeze up with people I have not meet. I also have a very hard time making the call but can answer if need to.
It's reassuring to see other with phone issues in the age of smart phones I was starting to feel alone in this.

I remember feeling as though caller ID was the best invention of all time when it came out in the 90's. It was such a relief to get the chance to ignore people when I was not in the mood.

It's definetely still the first thing I do. Checking that info that lights up,because it sure is nice. I always take a deeeeep breath too, I have noticed here recently. Before..... I talk on phones. Like I am going into battle and it's the enemy, or something.

I hate talking on the phone. I'm never sure when to talk or what to say. Typical phone conversation for me:

Person: Hello?
Me: Hi
Person: Who's this?
Me: Oh, it's me, <name here>
Person: Oh hi! How are you?
Me: Okay
Person: So what did you call me for?
Me: <subject here>
Person: <response here>
<long pause>
Person: So what's been going on?
Me: Uhh... <choose between "not much", "nothing", or "global warming">
...

I don't mind the phone that much. Especially if it's someone I know in person. Otherwise I do make it a point to compile notes first depending on who I'm calling.


However for some reason I detest talking to Answering Machines and Voicemails. I'm not sure how I can explain why. I will make several attempts to call and reach a real person and avoid having to leave a voice message.

I actually have a difficult time with phone conversations because I am horrible at verbal communications. It takes so long for my brain to process what someone is saying...at least if I saw them in person, I could see their facial expression...or in text where I can see the words.

With that said, I do what I have to do. Can't really ignore it.

I hate making phone calls if I cannot put a reason for the call. You'll never catch me calling just to say hello. I'd be an Awful telemarketer.

On the other hand, If I'm calling someone for somthing they asked for, its a much less akward conversation... I still don't think my voice is quite right on the phone though.

I sound like a child on the phone....makes me avoid it even more.

I absolutely hate it! I always get extremely awkward, and nervous, and make the conversation awkward.

Am ok if I have to call a shop to ask the price of something, or some other kind of impersonal information. But not like I enjoy it. But personal conversations on the phone are a horror to me. I don't know what to say or I say things I shouldn't have said and I don't know when to talk or hang up. I do not answer the phone when it rings, just let the machine pick it up and hate returning personal calls.

Also, cell phones make my head feel funny and I feel like I can feel the micro-wave energy that is emitted by them. Could be my imagination. Anyone else have that problem?

I also thought this was just me. I used to hate having to answer the phone when I was at work because I have trouble hearing vowels on the phone, and unfortunately, I worked at a bakery where they sold birthday cakes. Call me crazy, but people don't like it when you misspell their relative's name because you didn't hear the "e" following the "v" in Verity over a phone line.
I also hate to talk on the phone because I can't always premeditate what I am going to say. I have to plan my responses, something I can't do over a phone, since there is no way to press the backspace button and rephrase your statement.

I am pretty bad when I am talking to officials or people I don't know on the phone.

Ditto. Couldn't say it better.

I don't have an explanation for this except for the fact that I seem to have mild receptive language disorder so I have difficulties processing and remembering information that I only heard (unlike visual information that I memorize instantly and remember for extended periods of time). I seem to need visual cues explicitly so as to orient myself in a social situation.
Also, I strongly dislike having to introduce myself, which is inavoidable in many telephone conversations.

Come to think about it, I am exactly like Donald Morton in Mozart and the Whale who was actually happy that he landed on voicemail first time he called Isabelle. I'd be.

I sometimes wonder why I own a phone. When I remember to charge it, nobody calls, and when they do call, I don't want to answer -- which leads to a pernicious and circuitous habit of neglecting it altogether, for the most part. The real problem, though, is that I become completely entrenched in various interests, and completely forget my (cell) phone exists for days, sometimes weeks on end. By that point, so much time has elapsed that returning calls makes me more nervous and uncertain, than the idea of answering to begin with.

Not only do I hate talking on phones. But I have come to recognize that I have to almost run out of a room when other people are answering calls because I hate eavesdropping on other people's conversations as well. I don't want to have to hear about my family's life and the things their friends care about. I care to hear about how people are doing when I get back into the house. To hear it verbally from a person's mouth is nice. But not DURING the conversation for some reason.