What do to with friends who make fun of your aspergers

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Jediyoda
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27 Jul 2011, 4:40 am

What can I do with friends who make fun of me having aspergers syndrome and laugh at me? When I have a meltdown they think its funny and say when they get angrey as a Aspie meltdown. I constantly get into trouble when I take things literally and then they make fun of it and imitate me I have already had two meltdowns in front of them because they have involved me in their dramas Im like the meat in the sandwich they have told me to lighten up and get some balls and to take the critisim and jokes. They have told me not to mention anything about aspergers syndrome and that the next time that I have a meltdown or act the way I do which I cant help if I act the way I do they will yell at me. They also think that Im attention seeking which Im not and all I wanted to do was to explain that I may act abit strange at times due to my AS that was it.

These friends are driving me nuts and Insane literally with their constant dramas and backstabing and gossiping they are making me sick as far as Im concerned they arent friends to me real friends accept you for the person you are ok its easy to say love me or hate me Im as these friends of mine put constantly on facebook but they dont put what they say into practice these guys are trying to change me mould me into someone Im not and I hate it. They have also said that I am their friend whether I like it or not even if I dont wish to be their friend I have no choice in the matter. I also get told get over it. What can I do I feel like Im stuck between a corner and a rock Im sick of being treated like this I have openly communicated to the people involved about the situation but they were not at all interested in what I had to say and were distracted by a comment on facebook or another conversation its driving me Insane and I cant handle it anymore. that the next time that I have a meltdown or act the way I do which I cant help if I act the way I do they will yell at me. They also think that Im attention seeking which Im not and all I wanted to do was to explain that I may act abit strange at times due to my AS that was it.

These friends are driving me nuts and Insane literally with their constant dramas and backstabing and gossiping they are making me sick as far as Im concerned they arent friends to me real friends accept you for the person you are ok its easy to say love me or hate me Im as these friends of mine put constantly on facebook but they dont put what they say into practice these guys are trying to change me mould me into someone Im not and I hate it. They have also said that I am their friend whether I like it or not even if I dont wish to be their friend I have no choice in the matter. I also get told get over it. What can I do I feel like Im stuck between a corner and a rock Im sick of being treated like this I have openly communicated to the people involved about the situation but they were not at all interested in what I had to say and were distracted by a comment on facebook or another conversation its driving me Insane and I cant handle it anymore.



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27 Jul 2011, 4:58 am

I went through the exact thing from ages 13 to like 16 when some friends. They didn't make fun of me for who I was but where I came from. Its funny because I see the guy who would usually give me s**t and he acts exactly like me. He is living life through my personality. I can almost sympathize for him because in retrospect I feel like he was cognitively slow. I remember seeing cognitive boosting pills in his room once. It only pisses me off because it seems like he has trying to throw s**t in my face that I said when I was kid, which is ret*d considering I have heard from him and other people that I am the reason he is who is today. I'm not exactly sure if that is good or bad but he goes to the University at Austin now or another university in Texas.
I have to admit though, this guy has went through 4 years of high school, me 1 y ear and can probably pass him academically again he was who he was when he was younger and i hold no grudge for that. It seems he trys to humiliate me whenever I hung around him. He is the type of person to repeat what you said to him to other people to try and humiliate who. Its kinda strange though I remember telling him something while on a road trip then like 2 hours later after the road trip was over and we were hanging out with some friends he brought it up. WTF? How does somebody remember that. I think it was because what i said earlier and I emphasize I hold no grudge towards him at all. If anything I feel bad for him because I am going through what I think he went through. It was like a group following type thing, if one person didn't like me then other people didn't like me. I think they looked down on people who were smarter then them.



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27 Jul 2011, 5:03 am

well, i hate to be so blunt but if theres someone in your life you dont like, ditch em, block them from your facebook, and dont answer their calls :)


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27 Jul 2011, 5:09 am

bradt4evr wrote:
well, i hate to be so blunt but if theres someone in your life you dont like, ditch em, block them from your facebook, and dont answer their calls :)

Agreed.



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27 Jul 2011, 5:24 am

Ive done that but they have turned up at my doorstep wanting to know why Ive blocked them from facebook I have gone to not answering my door and having to endure being tormented with being not game to stand up for myself and talk to them. I feel Im forced to be friends with them and Ive got no choice. Why is it that I make friends with controlling nasty people. Out of all honesty Im scared of them. I had just got out of a very bad friendship which ended up with a legal document and my ex- friends not being able to come near me at all.



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27 Jul 2011, 9:39 am

And these people are near your age? because they're acting like a bunch of kids.


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27 Jul 2011, 10:28 am

If they make fun of you that much they are not your friends. You do have choice of friends sounds like you need some new friends.



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28 Jul 2011, 1:48 am

Just tell them that bothers you and that they should stop, if they continue they are not your friends.


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28 Jul 2011, 4:12 am

V001 wrote:
If they make fun of you that much they are not your friends. You do have choice of friends sounds like you need some new friends.


This. Try and find people who will genuinely be interested in you and will enjoy your company instead of using you for their personal entertainment.


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21 Oct 2011, 5:34 pm

EmmaUK12 wrote:
bradt4evr wrote:
well, i hate to be so blunt but if theres someone in your life you dont like, ditch em, block them from your facebook, and dont answer their calls :)

Agreed.


I totally agree!! ! I do not take that from anyone and neither should you! There ARE good NT friends out there, these "friends" aren't one of those good people,



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21 Oct 2011, 7:00 pm

I just looked up friend in the dictionary. The first two definitions are:

1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter

By those definitions, those people making fun of you are not your friends. I'd stop hanging out with them.



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22 Oct 2011, 1:22 am

Dump them and tell them why you have blocked them if they ask you next time.



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26 Oct 2011, 6:41 pm

Jediyoda wrote:
What can I do with friends who make fun of me having aspergers syndrome and laugh at me? When I have a meltdown they think its funny and say when they get angrey as a Aspie meltdown. I constantly get into trouble when I take things literally and then they make fun of it and imitate me I have already had two meltdowns in front of them because they have involved me in their dramas Im like the meat in the sandwich they have told me to lighten up and get some balls and to take the critisim and jokes. They have told me not to mention anything about aspergers syndrome and that the next time that I have a meltdown or act the way I do which I cant help if I act the way I do they will yell at me. They also think that Im attention seeking which Im not and all I wanted to do was to explain that I may act abit strange at times due to my AS that was it.

These friends are driving me nuts and Insane literally with their constant dramas and backstabing and gossiping they are making me sick as far as Im concerned they arent friends to me real friends accept you for the person you are ok its easy to say love me or hate me Im as these friends of mine put constantly on facebook but they dont put what they say into practice these guys are trying to change me mould me into someone Im not and I hate it. They have also said that I am their friend whether I like it or not even if I dont wish to be their friend I have no choice in the matter. I also get told get over it. What can I do I feel like Im stuck between a corner and a rock Im sick of being treated like this I have openly communicated to the people involved about the situation but they were not at all interested in what I had to say and were distracted by a comment on facebook or another conversation its driving me Insane and I cant handle it anymore. that the next time that I have a meltdown or act the way I do which I cant help if I act the way I do they will yell at me. They also think that Im attention seeking which Im not and all I wanted to do was to explain that I may act abit strange at times due to my AS that was it.

These friends are driving me nuts and Insane literally with their constant dramas and backstabing and gossiping they are making me sick as far as Im concerned they arent friends to me real friends accept you for the person you are ok its easy to say love me or hate me Im as these friends of mine put constantly on facebook but they dont put what they say into practice these guys are trying to change me mould me into someone Im not and I hate it. They have also said that I am their friend whether I like it or not even if I dont wish to be their friend I have no choice in the matter. I also get told get over it. What can I do I feel like Im stuck between a corner and a rock Im sick of being treated like this I have openly communicated to the people involved about the situation but they were not at all interested in what I had to say and were distracted by a comment on facebook or another conversation its driving me Insane and I cant handle it anymore.


You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. A friend that forces you to be a friend is no friend at all. A friend that only comes around when they want something is not a friend.