How good are your social skills?

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my short-term social skills are okay... i watch enough tv shows and stuff to have a basic idea of how i'm "supposed" to act..but in the long term, i can never keep any friends.

My social skills have improved somewhat since middle school (when I first learned I had AS). It used to be that I could not make eye contact with anyone I did not know, but that is not the case anymore. When I was in elementary and middle school, I had a lot of trouble maintaining eye contact. It made me feel very uncomfortable. However, now I have no problem with it; I can tolerate it with most people.

Depends.

With people i have known for a long time, it is how an NT would socialise.

With people i am friends with, but have not known for a while, not perfect, but nothing too bad.

With people i hadly speak to, don't know at all, or am intimidated by. Pretty much terrible. Sometimes, i am just silent unless one of them speaks directly to me.

When I was younger, I didn't have many social skills... but that's different now.

I noticed that I can make friends more easily now, while when I was younger, it was a hard thing to do.

I also noticed that I'm more 'courageous' now. When a teacher wants to say something because I did something wrong, I can look him straight in the eyes. Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey!

Mine are good.

I'm a very social person, so it helps.

Depends on the situation.
At work I know what to do but in social situations i don't know what to say.Or i talk too fast and trip over my words.

I screw up friendships. When I don't talk, people think that either I'm stuck up or I just don't like them. I can't think of the right things to say, my mind goes blank and the few that know me say that I'm just "bashful".

When it comes to one on one conversations I can handle it. When it becomes lot more than one on one I will try my hardest to keep eye contact on who ever is talking but when two talk at once to me dang its hard.

I never understood what I was doing wrong. I always seemed to make people feel uncomfortable. What I've learned is skills to make it easier. I just say what I want; sometimes it's screwed up...but I just call myself a goof and change the subject.

I think people can sense when someone is messed up inside; it makes them feel uncomfortable and so they pick on aspies. I was always picked on in school and always felt like an outsider. Although, I never felt like I was messed up....just that I couldn't understand whey people were so mean. I never hurt anyone intentionally. I always was just waiting for something to happen, or something to say. Like I should be doing something.

It get's easier as time goes by. Maybe it's because people learn to accept others as they get older. Everyone goofs up somehow. They just don't like to think it's possible. Don't get me wrong; I still have the same feelings sometimes. Uncomfortable in groups, suspicuos, non-trusting, etc.

When I read through all the other posts; I feel better. Like, I"m not so strange or alone. Thank you.

What a good place.

I can't say zero because I speak English fluently. Nevertheless, on a scale of 0-100, my social skills are probably a 5. No friends for almost 2 decades. I can't even connect with people online. None of my therapists can tolerate me. They've told me pretty much to f**k off. My first instinct was to give myself a 1, but I gave myself 4 extra points just to be generous to myself. Really, my social skills are at almost absolute zero. I can't get anyone to f*****g like me. No one no one no one no one!! !!

I have the social skills of an empty bottle.

hehehehehe....thank you. that made me smile; I hope you don't take it meanly.

It was so descriptive. Yup, i'm an empty bottle too.

i started reading the tips links, there's one on how NT's handle communication and it makes sense. i'm going to try it. in past, i just wouldn't respond....becuase there seemed to be nothing to say to someone's comment. now, i understand...NT's are handling comments like a dance. One says something, the other gives response...then the other says something so another response can be given....i'm not the best in rewriting...to understand it better; I recommend you read it yourself.

Hey, to the last posted response....I would look at what you want to accomplish...rather than what you want to gain. I just read a book called "i'm okay, your okay" and it logicially evaluates how NT"s are looking for acceptance. If we aspies concentrate and send out the acceptance signals, than people feel better and they will like you. It worked okay for me; I stay only a few minutes in a group; I just don't hang out...that gets me in trouble ...I avoid it like theh plague.

You sound likable to me...you see a therapist, so I know your trying...you want people to like you...so I know you have feelings.

I look through this, and I write a ton of stuff...sorry....i can be a drone when I get on a topic....

I really need to get an avatar....by the way...i had partial autism as a kid; i was a head-banger for a while. maybe that's the avatar i will get...

I wouldn't say good, though I seem to have a habit of making people laugh which I guess makes up for it..

my social skills have improved alot and now i can comminicate with some people normally on one on one conversations but not in groups as i try and hide out of those. my experience is trial and error is the best method and put yourself out there sometimes even if it doesnt work its still a learning experience.

My social skills are pretty bad. I can fake it for short periods of time, basing my behavior, tone of voice, and phrasing from TV shows and movies. I'm a girl, so supposedly my social skills are better. However, I was hanging out with some guy friends this weekend, and I felt out of my league. (Not as displaced as I was in the past, in the company of females, at an all-women's college). But I think it says something, that I felt like I wasn't able to pick up on the subtleties/behave appropriately even among guys who typically are more uh... laidback about social norms? I don't know. I could be totally wrong.