Feeling SO lonely lately

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I am going to break....I'm breaking right now.....I have been reaching out for help and support on here because I do not have friends and my family would just have me locked up again. The past few weeks everything has been making me cry. I need to escape and i don't know how.

yeah I'm totally feeling like that, but like someone else said I have a few online friends that I can chat with if I get too bored or stuff. hang in there! have you tried reading something, even if you don't like books you can a read a magazine, or the onion news (fake news) and it may give you a laugh and help put ur mind onto something else.

thanks but books are not a long term solution. and after 25 years, they are not a solution at all. my problem is not that I am bored or have nothing to do. It is that i am lonely and alone and lack the social skills to adequately do anything about it due to a lifelong syndrome that will never go away.

i prefer having 1-2 close friends rather then a group
i cant fit in any group and conversation in groups go faster which i cant pick up
if someone sits and talks with me or share their thoughts then i find it relaxing
but too many people, loud noise, trying to keep a conversation going is stressful

I'm at a disadvantage in this topic, because I'm an NT. But I did want to point you to someone who is an Aspie and who's got a positive take on making friends. Brian King.
Here's a recent blog post he wrote on this topic: I hope it helps: http://spectrummentor.com/profiles/blog ... ng-friends

i always feel such a outcast when im outside the house i never just seem to click with people

Yes I do often feel lonely since I am single and Sunday is the worst day for me. It seems to help that I attend group activities with people who I have a common interest. For example, going to Meet Up Groups. Some meet up groups I connect better with than others.

i recent ly got this same feeling of lonliness but they just amped up my depression meds and this week has been a drstic difference from the last few months... yay. i still feel lonely especially when meds wear off but it is not as bad so far its much better.

I think loneliness has a lot to do with purpose and meaning in our lives. For myself I can safely say I have not one person in the world who truly cares for me or values my existence. That's why i feel lonely, as having a meaningful existence will lead to me being valued by others. I suppose having a true purpose (which generally tends to involve others) makes one feel in someway part of society. When you have very restrictive, individually based dreams and aspirations it tends to lead to loneliness in my opinion. I'm not saying that anyone whose lonely is hated by everyone else, or is a completely void of ambition, but if we tend to let very little in to our own individual world, we limit our chances of forming part of something beyond ourselves.

I feel the same, pretty much all of my friends (NT's all!) are either forming romantic relationships or moving away leaving me feeling isolated and very much alone. Hopefully I can change that soon.

I feel socially satisfied because I'm around 4+ days a week with my boyfriend. But besides him (who used to be a friend) there isn't anyone. I do think that's unhealthy, but I'm clueless on how to fix that.