Why Are You So Quiet?

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I prefer being quiet so I can think and I feel peaceful when I do. I just stare out the window

I hate being quiet. I'm a guy with a lot of opinions. I just don't find the right time to express them. The worst part is that sometimes I loose track on conversations even though I'm trying my hardest to listen because my reading comprehension level is lower than most. I'm afraid I might say something off topic and stupid. I just wait until other people are done and then I talk about something else. I can only follow a conversation completely with a person one on one. It's kind of stupid but I have to just live with it.

Most of the time I get 'Your so quiet' (with a puzzled look) so yeah "WHY ARE YOU SO QUIET"

I lack the impulsiveness to say

"Because if I started talking about what I want to you'll wish you never asked"

and as sensitive as my hearing its rubbish in noisy surroundings... SENSORY OVERLOAD Aaaargh!

I would also go as far to say that in a lot of cases its other people that are the reason for my silence
because they don't stop talking in the sense of not being included in the conversation
or I'm not interested in mundane things lets get deep already!

I'm quiet because of various reason, one of them being i know that my opinions aren't valued if i can't speak louder, clearer, and faster than i actually do. What comes out is also very much a non sequitor. I also don't like it when talkative people try to crack my shell. This is especially hard since EVERYONE in my family is social.

uggghh i hate this question! In the past, I have told whoever asked the truth, which is almost always complicated or pointless (to them) witch just gets me odd looks. I never know what to say, so I usually just shrug it off and change the subject. (I compliment them on there shirt or something, then I let them do the rest of the talking.)

uggghh i hate this question! In the past, I have told whoever asked the truth, which is almost always complicated or pointless (to them) witch just gets me odd looks. I never know what to say, so I usually just shrug it off and change the subject. (I compliment them on there shirt or something, then I let them do the rest of the talking.)

"What do you want me to say?" is my usual response.

Same here.

I've had people do that to me before and I hate it and it makes me even less likely to talk.

Oh god. Just reading the title of your post made me angry.
i have gotten that question so many times, and it infuriates me. I mean what kind of question is "Why are you so quiet?" and there is no good response! No matter what you say, the person has already labeled you as a freak in his mind, even before he asked you the question.
I've tried saying:
Well why dont you say something - got a weird look
What would you like me to say - got a weird look
I don't have anything to say right now - got a weird look
I have no opinion on the topic - got a weird look
I do not know how to respond to your question - got a weird look
F* you as*hole - got a weird look

I find this question irritating too. But I've realised I get this question less and less. That's because I socialise less with people whose wavelength I'm not particularly on, and more with people whose wavelength I'm much more on. Whenever I've been asked why I'm so quiet it would be hard to think of an effective response, as they ask because they know I'm not on their wavelength anyway. I'm quiet because the conversation topics are all about stuff I have no focus for, e.g. showbiz, popular culture. On the other hand, I find myself being the centre of attention in a lot of groups (which I don't necessarily always revel in) so conversation at least to me comes naturally and being quiet is not an option.

So being asked "Why are you so quiet?" says more about your social environment, than about you.

I like to smile and shrug.

Or give a few-word, sentence-fragment answer, like, "Just am."

Unless I've known someone for quite a while and think they might really care. Then I tell the truth.

And if they're the type to set themselves out to "draw me out??" Well, I can keep up with the two-word answers for a long time. I can walk away.

Or I can give them what they're digging for and stand there rolling with laughter while they run away as fast as their socially-constructed legs can carry them. as*holes.

I agree that the person has already labeled you, and IMO people who do that are not worth your time anyway.
My usual response to this question is "I can never think of anything to say". Or if someone asks me why I never talk I am most often tempted to say "Have you ever thought that maybe I just don't talk to you?" (I have never actually said that though)

I used to get asked this a lot before but now I've worked out how to fluff my way through conversations when I don't know what to say.
I usually do a little laugh and repeat what the person just told me and add in a "yeah I've noticed" or "that's intersting" or "that must have been fun for you" kind of thing and they will continue talking.

because what i am thinking is not what i think you want me to say.

I've been known to ask them; "Why are you so loud?"