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MetalAspie
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23 Aug 2012, 6:02 pm

I KNOW I'm not the only one out there, so I wanna see if theres any others on here.

Are there any aspies on here that have outgrown their social awkwardness to the point where they go out to parties and rage hard like the "normal" people do? Haha

Now I'm not talking about 5 dudes in your parents basement drinking mountain dew and playing Call of Duty...

I'm talking PARTIES

I'm talking beer pong, keg stands, fat blunts, dancing with hot chicks to bad music, and waking up the next day hungover knowing that you had a great time, and knowing that you're gonna do it again next weekend and it's gonna be excellent.

I see alot of Aspies on here say that that sort of thing isn't really their 'style', and if it's not it's not. If you prefer to keep to yourself with a few friends, that's cool too if that's your thing. If you prefer small social gatherings where everyone just hangs out and talks, that's also fine. For me, it all depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes I'll just want to be alone and not talk to anyone. Sometimes this can go on for a few days. Sometimes I prefer just hanging out with a few friends in a small group. But when I want to rage, believe me, I rage!



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23 Aug 2012, 6:40 pm

Gee if only I were you...

Ive been to a couple of parties in my time though. Mostly frat parties and house parties, but yeah, Ive never really had the social anxiety, but just soert of lack of invitations to party



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23 Aug 2012, 6:55 pm

I used to do those things. When I moved away from home to university I was randomly placed in a student house and I latched on to this girl who was into clubbing and taking drugs. She seemed to accept me when nobody else did and I thought she was wonderful but in hindsight she was sort of laughing at me at the same time as I was so square! But she took me 'under her wing' so to speak, and I ended up living in shared houses for a few years with her and her friends, going to raves, smoking pot and I even got into DJing and amassed quite a big vinyl collection. I learnt more about socialising from these experiences than I had learned through growing up, although at times it was very awkward, on one occasion I even broke down and confessed to her that I had no idea what to do around people, that I had no past that I could share because I was always a loner at school. However, for a few years I did manage to find myself in the midst of something vaguely resembling a social circle. Unfortunately at the centre of it was drug use or I was just vicariously being there as the friend's housemate. I always felt like a 'tourist', could never keep conversations going and it just became obvious that I was totally different to all of them and it became really stressful and difficult. Stopped taking drugs and drinking and just couldn't be around it anymore, and just focused more on studying. Since I moved away I became progressively less social, more into myself, but I'm generally ok with that.



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23 Aug 2012, 7:35 pm

I'll be honest, even if I was oozing with confidence and charisma these things would not appeal to me. What makes them normal things to do anyway? I don't understand this drinking culture that seems to be present in certain countries (including my own). I guess people must enjoy dumbing themselves down :shrug: Any sort of social activity I do I like for it to be enriching and worthwhile. Slowing my brain down on purpose doesn't come under that category.



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23 Aug 2012, 7:53 pm

Party? When and where?

Thats definately me!

I do get tired of it and go months sometimes just being boring, but then somebody calls or stops by and it's on.


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23 Aug 2012, 9:06 pm

Parties burn me out, but I do enjoy them and let myself go. Sometimes too much :lol:
But then again, next day I'll be damned if I leave home.


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24 Aug 2012, 4:07 pm

Shatbat wrote:
Parties burn me out, but I do enjoy them and let myself go. Sometimes too much :lol:
But then again, next day I'll be damned if I leave home.


That's how I am for the most part. I'll party hard one night, and then the next day I'll just wanna "mellow out". There are exceptions though. I've gone on 3 day party binges at my school (St. Patty's Day weekend and the last weekend of school).

Colinn wrote:
I'll be honest, even if I was oozing with confidence and charisma these things would not appeal to me. What makes them normal things to do anyway? I don't understand this drinking culture that seems to be present in certain countries (including my own). I guess people must enjoy dumbing themselves down :shrug: Any sort of social activity I do I like for it to be enriching and worthwhile. Slowing my brain down on purpose doesn't come under that category.


Ok?

That's great, but I made this thread because I wanted to see if there was any aspies who DO like to party...

I'm not gonna go on a thread that says "Hey are there any aspies on here that like scuba diving?" just to say "No, I've never done it nor have I ever had any interest in scuba diving" haha XD



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24 Aug 2012, 6:28 pm

I've been thought a freak for being inappropriately friendly till about age 14, so I tend to keep it toned down.

But I do like my fun now and then. I definitely do feel the social-ness coming, though, delayed, but coming.


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25 Aug 2012, 12:50 pm

I already did a lifetime of partying by the time I graduated high school. So by the time I was 21 it was just boring but it
was fun then. :D



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26 Aug 2012, 11:49 am

MetalAspie wrote:
I KNOW I'm not the only one out there, so I wanna see if theres any others on here.

Are there any aspies on here that have outgrown their social awkwardness to the point where they go out to parties and rage hard like the "normal" people do? Haha

Now I'm not talking about 5 dudes in your parents basement drinking mountain dew and playing Call of Duty...

I'm talking PARTIES

I'm talking beer pong, keg stands, fat blunts, dancing with hot chicks to bad music, and waking up the next day hungover knowing that you had a great time, and knowing that you're gonna do it again next weekend and it's gonna be excellent.

I see alot of Aspies on here say that that sort of thing isn't really their 'style', and if it's not it's not. If you prefer to keep to yourself with a few friends, that's cool too if that's your thing. If you prefer small social gatherings where everyone just hangs out and talks, that's also fine. For me, it all depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes I'll just want to be alone and not talk to anyone. Sometimes this can go on for a few days. Sometimes I prefer just hanging out with a few friends in a small group. But when I want to rage, believe me, I rage!


Yeah great parties are great. But nowadays even my working colleagues (10 years younger or so) are boring because they leave home "in time". And I tend to stay too long at parties I don't belong
I just feel unpleasant the next day after. Can't help it I am too old for them. But yeah I liked it and like it.
Just there is nobody of my age that seriously wants to party anymore. At least nobody I know.

Best parties used to be those with only a few friends and crazy ideas. Not too much alcohol such that you can enjoy still and go crazy.

Here in Finland people are so serious sometimes. It really sucks. But met some Italians on the street and just spontaneously went with them.
That was fun. Though no party just ordinary club...



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26 Aug 2012, 7:08 pm

I don't like getting drunk, generally. I like to drink, but at home 9/10 times (four dollar lagers at bars, restaurants etc....that's too much), and not to the point of drunkenness.

If I went to a party, I would like it to be one with ballroom dancing and classical music on a seaclifff in a Victorian mansion , with candlelight. That would be great.



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26 Aug 2012, 7:46 pm

I had a 48 hour hang over after new years.



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26 Aug 2012, 11:20 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
I had a 48 hour hang over after new years.


haha right on



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27 Aug 2012, 3:47 am

Ha damn straight. Actually led to my diagnosis of AS being stronger as I couldn't bring my self to tell the truth about some of stuff I used to get up to, especially with my parents being in the room and the report finding its way back to school.

Skipping class at 14 to embark on a 6 mile voyage to the local Lidl store to pick up a case of 24 stella. Successfully launched the charity "Children In Need Of Whisky Appeal" in school, raised £96 on its first day. One day the teachers phoned home to see where I was. When I was later questioned about this in my diagnosis I had to say I was having a breakdown and needed some alone time. In reality I was less than 30ft away from school in the pub across the road. My dad is an engineer so I sourced a pair of his work overalls to put over my school uniform, covered them in diesel and stuffed my school bag with tools so I could say I was a mobile mechanic inbetween work orders so I could get served.

After school got a little out of hand. I ended up forming a band as the drummer and frequently found my self waking up in bus shelters/bridges/hotel tables/shopping trolleys after a gig, under a pink bed sheet (no idea where that came from :scratch: ) with my cymbal bag over my head (drummers never take their kit, just their cymbals and drumsticks)

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27 Aug 2012, 10:41 am

cherrycoke wrote:
Ha damn straight. Actually led to my diagnosis of AS being stronger as I couldn't bring my self to tell the truth about some of stuff I used to get up to, especially with my parents being in the room and the report finding its way back to school.

Skipping class at 14 to embark on a 6 mile voyage to the local Lidl store to pick up a case of 24 stella. Successfully launched the charity "Children In Need Of Whisky Appeal" in school, raised £96 on its first day. One day the teachers phoned home to see where I was. When I was later questioned about this in my diagnosis I had to say I was having a breakdown and needed some alone time. In reality I was less than 30ft away from school in the pub across the road. My dad is an engineer so I sourced a pair of his work overalls to put over my school uniform, covered them in diesel and stuffed my school bag with tools so I could say I was a mobile mechanic inbetween work orders so I could get served.

After school got a little out of hand. I ended up forming a band as the drummer and frequently found my self waking up in bus shelters/bridges/hotel tables/shopping trolleys after a gig, under a pink bed sheet (no idea where that came from :scratch: ) with my cymbal bag over my head (drummers never take their kit, just their cymbals and drumsticks)

:salut:


Wow, you sound like MY drummer! He's a party animal for sure, and it's not unusual for him to wake up in strange places.

What kinda music were you guys?



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27 Aug 2012, 10:56 am

Er... no.

Thanks but no thanks. I'd rather stick my tadger in a wasp's nest.