Are we really missing out on much?

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Yes and no.

Humans are social creatures. People who "live in their own world" (Asperger's or no) can certainly miss out on the prevalent society. I should say that persons with Asperger's is merely a subset of people who for whatever unique neurological wiring just don't fit in.

Now, there's nothing that makes prevalent society somehow special over all other hypothetical societies. I've found many non-neurotypicals do live in a society of one. There is power in that as well.

There are parts that I would prefer being NT over, and parts that I like the AS over.

I like my general contentedness of having AS. The world's very stable to me. If I'm happy, I'll be happy for a good long while. And if I'm sad, I'm not the most volatile person. I might threaten to commit suicide, but I'm not the type who actually could. So the sadness passes.

But I'd like being able to be more socially active. I'd like to be able to walk up to random people and have nice scintillating conversations about hot chicks or something. And I'd like to have some motivation to do my schoolwork, which I currently get whatever the percentage of the grades tests are, because I get 100s on tests, but do nothing else.

It's more fun being on the outside I think. That's the best that I see it.

The best thing to do, is to associate with other weird people. I mean, they're usually a lot more interesting anyways. I get bored by regular people.

Being extra Dino there was no one to tell me of this aspie stuff, which in part applies to some people.

No one has it all, some are more social, but Middle School, Junior High, and High School, are reported as hell by about 90%. They got it, could play the games, and came out on the wrong end. We got some minor harrassment from a few idiots. They got their souls ripped apart by people they deeply wanted to be friends with. This was public school, the winners are not going anywhere important. It is not the college bound who win the High School contest.

Young adults are playing the mateing game, lots of mating, games, ever changing partners. They are popular, living in mutual whoredom, destroying any ability to have feelings for one person. They have been test driven by hundreds, married and divorced several times, before we get a date.

Dinos report, I seem to have some of AS, a lot I dont, and I have some non-AS stuff. But they got on with life.

Youngsters get a Dx and think they have it all, and their entire future will be much worse. Then take drugs to make it worse, because it is not like it was their life or anything, it's AS, Hopeless! I would call that over reacting. All it takes is a few quirks to get a Dx, one less quirk and you are Dxed normal.

Study a normal person, they have non-AS quirks, and they are boring.

As an employer, they are all a bunch of brats, and it takes parental control, being a strict teacher, a cop, and something of a Dark Lord, to get any work out of them. I am not impressed. In general it takes one person full time to manage three. Then another to manage three managers. That is four managers to keep nine people working. Most companies go out of business because they hire humans.

Suppliers and customers are also human, Hell is endless.

Aspies make better workers, if they have good management. They develop rituals, will actually take interest in what they are doing, even read a book. Aspies rebuild servers and overhaul routers on weekends. They hate people, and so are prepared for management.

From what I hear, aspies marry later, and stay married.

Being confused children they make good parents. My little girl explained me to a friend as, "We were little kids together." We had a lot of fun and both turned out well.

The lot I hear around here goes up to people and says, Will you be my friend? Please be my friend, Someone has to be my friend! And does not shut up after the person has rounded the next corner at a run.

Friends are an illusion. Social networks are built on, be nice to me and I might be able to help you later. There is no bond, no emotional connection, and they keep vanishing, so more have to be found. The odds they might be of some help are slim. It is a cheap mutual lie.

Adults know their family, and where they work. Family are not friends, nor the people you work with. Both are stuck with you, and have social skills that failed them in Junior High. Talking about football is all they have for a common language. They all watch the same TV, so they can pretend to talk about something, and it won't be the Science Channel. In a town of 20,000, the Book Club has fourteen members.

Most people marry through work, figuring they were sorted to the same garbage can, they must belong together. Having lost all hope most stay together. They both did it to get a bigger TV. They will be in debt for the rest of their lives. It seems a quarter of men die of stress induced heart attacks in their early fourties.

Through my AS Membership I have read 20,000 books, patented inventions, and at 60 am starting several new business ventures, using mostly computers.

Discovering WP gives me great hope, this is the big thrift store of humans. That is where I got most of my computers. A little tinkering, and they were working. Now I need a building of soundproof one bedroom offices with food delivery, and I will have the workforce I always wanted.

I am an adult, I do what I want. If anything I had it worse, not being understood, living through it. I was almost 50 when Windows 95 with a CD drive came out, I had it rough. I had no Dx to use for an excuse, I just lived my life. I think it turned out well. Almost all of those cool NTs are dead, or will be soon, I have a twenty year plan.

Never known any different, so can't say I'd be missing out on anything. Don't understand the social scene, have no desire to be part of it. Have no concience/empathy, but still, I like bein' me and would n't have it any other way.