Is this normal for friendship?

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So it seems that I am the person who calls or text people first, but I never had someone text or call me first to start a conversion.

Is this normal for friendships or is this a way for people to tell me that they dislike me?

Well it's hard to say, you may be reading into it too deeply. I'd say if you can never seem to get a hold of them or they ignore your texts/calls would be an indicator.

They normally reply back to me

This means that you value the friendship much more than them. That is not to say they don't like you, it just means that you really like them, compared to how they feel about you.

If they reply back more than 1 word answers, then they do value you. Some people are not convo starters.

It depends how frequent it is, if you have to contact them first all the time and its been going on for some time then you clearly value the friendship more than they do. Another indicator of that would be if they commonly give you shorter replies than the ones you give them. If you want to test the waters a bit, try not contacting them for a while and see if they initiate contact first during that time.

The replies are commonly the same lenght as my message and I have try before to not contact people for a whole month, and for that full month I was never contact. that what began to question my friendships. Do you think I should try for longer period?

To be honest, these are not friends. Friends seek you, ask you to do stuff together, share their stories, thoughts, fears, dreams with you. Want your opinion and advice on things going on in their lives. Call you to ask how it went when they know you had something important (good or bad) going on in your life. Call you to share important going-ons in their lives. Introduce you to their other friends and want to meet yours. Confide in you things they don't tell others or they tell very few others. Email you things they think may be of interest to you.

Even if they insist they never call because they're "busy", it's just an excuse. No one is ever too busy when they're truly interested in a certain friendship.

In all honesty, I would consider a whole month without any attempted contact from them to be a sign that this isn't friendship. A friend to me is someone that wants to be a part of your life as much as you do there's. Someone you feel in sync with and can confide in and share important aspects of your lives, like Moondust said. Don't give so much time and care into others that don't do the same for you in return. Friendship works both ways.