Do you socialize better 1 on 1 or in groups of people

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It depends on the situation and who i am with one on one if is my close friends and when it comes to groups it has to be a small a group of people

Sounds similar to something that was mentioned recently in another thread. Conversations are easier for me if they are "fact-finding" or otherwise have the objective of learning something, rather than just to chat with no real purpose. Females tend to chat just to chat, I find. More-so than males anyhow. Meaningless chatter is usually faster-paced and more confusing.

Hard to imagine anybody on this forum saying they prefer to be in a group. I definitely prefer small groups of people- 1-3 other people at most, I'd say. It's difficult enough talking to just one!

Talking to other people- especially strangers- is difficult for me, because it's an overload of information. In my own head alone, on an average day, I have enough to keep me occupied and to keep my mind whirring. That is to say, I probably have more going on up there than the average neurotype. So when I meet somebody new... well, it's like my mind combining with another mind. All of the information is compounded. All of their new words and ideas are a little too much for me to handle. That, and the fact that I need to concentrate on how I come across, and on what I say... it's simply a lot to focus on.

I can tolerate conversations involving myself and two others but if there are more than two others, I become very anxious.

Without question, one on one. It's always been that way.

I work well in groups when it's a professional thing - so long as everyone plays by the rules, and the expectations are well defined. I need the structure that such definitions impose on the environment.

The worst thing is groups with unwritten conventions of behavior. In most cases I never know what is expected, and if I just try and join by being my usual unassuming, polite and factual self, I never make it past the fortress.

So be it.

1 on 1 for sure.

i cant really focus on other people talking to each other. cos i get ideas of something i want to say, then lose focus. or i cant know when im supposed to answer or say something. its really frustrating.

i feel comfortable in a large group when its about dancing though. i dont care cos i dont have to talk. and during parties, i try to get 1 on 1 with people most of the time to talk with them.

1 on 1 is best, for me. The more people who are added to the conversation, the less I can follow the thread/theme of the conversation. It's harder to concentrate when there are more people in the discussion. It becomes a case of too much verbal-overwhelm. In conversations, less is best.

One on one definitely. With groups its hard for me to concentrate as soon as I think of something brief to say about the topic they have moved on to a different topic. Its really frustrating .

i know right? i was talking about this with a friend. he have the same problem..

1 on 1, of course.

Definitely one on one; no more than four people at once per group. It's too difficult to follow everyone's conversations.

Actually i'm going to be dead honest and I personally hate being 1 on 1 with people. The reason is is because i find being around more people to be more fun, and actually easier to socialize because it gets rid of those awkward pauses when you can't think of anything to say when 1 on 1. More people gives me more chances to piggyback on other things poeple say. Often being 1 on 1 with sometime often terrifies me especially if it's someone I don't know well. It's different if that person's a best friend but I also find it more boring compared to being around more then one close friend. So I prefer to be with more people. I will address a few disadvantages that I noticed though with being with more people. Sometimes I find when I'm with more people, it's much harder to in other ways to add to the conversation when people are very talkative. sometimes (for some reason I still haven't quite figured out) I find it hard to jump into the conversation to add my share because I always finds someone else beats me to it to say something. ARG! that can be so frustrating! I'm sure all of you can relate to that because i bet that one of the reasons why you would prefer to be 1 on 1 because you have a chance to say what you need to say with out someone else jumping in before you rendering you almost a quiet out cast in the group. That and also when a group gets fired up about a topic you don't know anything about.

Generally 1 on 1 but I find groups of three can be quite nice as well because it takes the pressure off to have to talk all the time, but there aren't too many people so that you get drownded out.

1 on 1 for me. As soon as a third person is introduced I end up silent while the others talk about things.

I would say one on one however a small group also works quite well too.

1 on 1 for me, I feel much more comfortable talking with one person where's if its a group of people the anxiety kicks in.