Anyone feel like they don't fit in with people their own age

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I know what that's like. I've never got along with people my age. I've kinda always wondered if I'm going to eventually reach an age where I fit in better with my peers.

I know I don't. I work a crappy job, have never had a girlfriend and have never had sex, so no kids. At my age (38) that makes me not able to find others I can socialize with. Add to that that I work a working class job but talk like I have a PHD and have interests not shared with others around me and I am profoundly alone.

I get on a lot better with middle aged women, and I'm a 22 year old male. I've always found I didn't get on with people my own age, particularly when I was in college and most people just loved drinking and clubbing.

I don't fit in. Most of the people I go to school with are immature, lazy, and unmotivated idiots, so I don't care.

Most of my NT friends are either a few years older themselves or have the mind of someone a few years older. My best friend is 36 and my boyfriend is a year older than me, but acts like he's in his 30s. My AS friends, in contrast, tend to vary greatly in both age and maturity. It's hard for me to find people that I really click with, since I'm a pretty complex and quirky person.

I don't understand how people my age can meet people easily in class or at their work and all of a sudden be friends. I can't freaking do that. For starters, I'm way too shy to approach people, and I'm always worried that I'll reveal something weird about me and the person will reject me, just like people have many times. Plus, if I'm meeting the person on a regular basis, they will find out weird things about me eventually, and I don't know how they will react to them.

This is why I am friends with a lot of older and more mature people, as they've been more likely to just accept me for who I am. I've met a lot of people my age or younger throughout the years, and most of them have moved on and found other people. Rejection is so hard to shake, especially when you try so hard to make a good impression on others.

I don't really fit in anywhere, in any age group. But I'm used it now. Just as long as I have people who really care about me and accept me, then I'm fine.

I tend to get on better with people who are younger or older than me by about 10 years. I have a lot of difficulty relating to most people my own age

Sometimes I find a person in my age group or a few years younger or older who for whatever reason is drawn to my personality, sometimes despite my own wishes in the matter, but usually I don't get along with anyone.

I fit in with some people my age, but mostly I don't say much and observe. That seems to be typical for Aspies, though I wish it wasn't.

I've never fit in with my peers but I was never worried about it, either. I was more able to relate to them before I was in my teens. Once I was in high school and they started talking about hair, guys, fashion and makeup, I couldn't relate to them anymore.

My peers weren't as nice to me as they were to each other. They were very catty and sarcastic towards me. I've turned away from my peers and decided to concentrate on my special interests.

I was always more able to relate to my parents generation than my own.

I don't regret it.

I can fit in with anybody, if they gave me a chance. Older people give me more of a chance than my peers, and older people will chat more about interesting things, where as my peers just talk about boring things like celebrities, drinking, and sex.