Should I tell my friend 7 years about my Aspergers?

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She should probably be the person I trust the most, but she comes off as the most neurotypical of my friends, and I am afraid she will not believe me because I am pretty high functioning and can usually pass for neurotypical if needed.

We are on about the same intelligence level, but sometimes she moves through information faster than me, because I process it differently. I don't want her to think I am not smart. We both value intelligence highly.

Also sometimes I have trouble knowing if she is serious, or I have trouble reading her face to know if she is angry. Usually she isn't, but I interpret her as angry or upset or something like that because her face is difficult for me to read. Personality-wise, we get along well. It's just sometimes hard do me to understand her. This is only a problem because we live in an apartment together.

I almost told a good friend recently - who i was asking some social advice from -but decided not to. The person in question knows me really well anyway and i dont think giving my personality and traits a label particularly helps them understand me any better.

Well, I told my best friend (whom I'd known for about 7 years at the time) about my dx pretty soon after getting it. I don't think it's made much difference really.

We worked together for a while, before my dx. That didn't work too well - we have communication styles that kind of clash. We can work around that when we're around each other in free time, but it led to all sorts of conflicts and confusion in the workplace.

I told a few of my close friends recently, and them came out publicly online.

It was like coming out as gay in my liberal area: no one looks down on me, but many praised me for the courage to speak, and the eloquence with which I wrote my coming out letter. If she's a true friend, her response will probably be much the same. Certainly, she won't see you as less intelligent.

These threads always confuse me. By telling her, you're no different a person than you were the day before, so what's the problem?

It doesn't really make much difference with a good friend. The only time I felt a bit awkward is with a friend from childhood who has been working with autistic children the past few years. Sometimes I feel a bit analyzed by her, but at the last party I stopped by she whipped out her I-pad for me to play with which was awesome and gave me something to focus on while chitchatting.