about unattractive and unpopular nt women

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Or maybe because they personally don't think they are unattractive as to how you see them. Myabe they might be ugly but have an awesome personality. I have seen a lot of overweight and unattractive girls getting good-looking guys. So, beauty is definately not just about how they look. Some people think I'm average and others think I'm beautiful and I think I'm beautiful, so I won't go with a guy that thinks I'm not.

Cause even unattractive and unpopular, women want a man to be a sea lion with deep pockets, that rulz out 99% of the aspie male population.

Ugly chicks are always worth less than the pretty ones, so of course they have to be perpetually kneeling before we mighty socially ret*d men.

Totally true.

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Sorry, I couldn't read the OP without thinking of this.


*ahem* moving on...

Perhaps it is because labels like "ugly" and "unpopular" are shallow and mildly misogynist?

Seriously, treat people like they have value. That includes women. Because they do.

We don't know how attractive or not (physically and otherwise) you are, so it's kind of hard to give you an answer. You could be physically repulsive for all we know.

One thing I've learned is you have to approach with the attitude "Everyone is beautiful, but your just not my type."

Well, since I'm one of those unattractive, ugly NT girls you're describing,I thought I'd give you an answer (I'm not putting myself down, it's true). I don't think you need to tell these girls they are unattractive but I do appreciate your honesty on this forum.

I am often rejected and judged due to my appearance by potential friends, potential boyfriends, and in professional situations. It got to the point where I really couldn't make it through a day without being made fun of for my looks, so I ended up deciding to withdraw from the world because I didn't see the point of trying if people rejected me before they ever bothered to get to know me. The reason that I might not give you a chance isn't because of your Asperger's, but because I've already bought into the belief that no one would want to be with me because of the way I look. (And I know that's probably not fair to everyone, I'm just trying to protect myself.)

Assuming that I were to give a guy a chance in the first place, I would never reject a guy specifically because the guy had Asperger's. I actually think that Asperger's is a positive thing (my family members have it) and not a reason to reject someone. I would choose to pursue or reject the guy based on how I felt in their presence. If I felt happy and content in that guy's presence and looked forward to seeing them, then I'd want to pursue things. If I felt insecure and uncomfortable, then the guy might not be right for me.

At what point when meeting these girls do you remind them that they are plain and unattractive? As others have told you, I'm pretty good at reminding myself of that and don't need someone else to do it for me. I would want to know that you were able to see past my appearance to the person I am on the inside, or why you found a specific quality about me appealing or attractive. If you want girls to see past your differences, set the tone by seeing past theirs.

i dont get why the difference is between attractive and unattractive women or NT versus AS. there are sooo many variables about a woman so to boil their presentation to you down to an either/or of two considerations, well it is no wonder you are not having success.

dont get me wrong, i do struggle with women. i really do. but if you are aiming too high or aiming too low, as another responder suggested, the women probably know it.

youve got to appreciate these creatures.

I think it's 'cause people find social awkwardness an unattractive and annoying trait. Even though I wouldn't have a chance with a normal non-autistic, pretty or ugly, person, I'd want someone who was sociable and easygoing.