Do People Fear You?

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People fear me, until they get to know me. I have a tough exterior and a soft interior.

People that take the time to get to know me tell me I come off as deadly serious and scary, though I don't act that way on purpose. I have intimidated many people by the way I unknowingly act, which is humorous, since I've never been in a fight in my life and probably wouldn't be able to hold my own against most people.

They'd better be scared of me.

I should point out that 'fear' is not really 'respect'. You can bloody well intimidate people and force them to shut the hell up, but that is not respect, people will just be scared of you, and it is certainly not a way to make friends. That is fear and indimitation. RESPECT is when people wouldn't even think to say anything about you, and they appreciate you. Violence and agression is not a good road to go down, you'll just get in trouble.

I know some Apsies have the view that you can either be a pathetic runt OR be a violent thug, but there is an 'between' that many NT ultilise. That's by being assertive, standing your ground verbally, and not acting scared or violent, but rationally. If you know how to approach it, you can certainly take and deflect any sitaution in a verbal context. And not a cheesy kind of 'I understand you Mr. Bully" kind of way, or a "back the f**k off before I split your head in two" way either. Look up assertivness, and see if you can apply it.

Of course a bully might ignore this and just be violent. THEN you fight back, ONLY to STOP him (and do not go overboard). I mean self-defense, of course. Any Authority will understand that you were defending yourself.

Of course a gang of friends does provide 'protection'. Even they're not 'fighters', a bully will see it as a pack, and will be more wary to cause trouble. Assuming you have some friends, of course.

Sorry, but I really had to address some of attitude of 'I want people to fear me' here. It's not the right way, AT ALL.

Here, check this Wikipedia article:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertiveness

I like being feared sometimes, as it makes me feel powerful.

I ask people if I come off as a threat to them and some say 'YES!' while others say 'a little' so I simply tell them why im nothing to be nervous of and I get along with them pretty well after that.

I have found that a number of people seem to fear me. I think in the end it pretty much boils down to the fact that I don't talk very often, and I can get aggressive when ridiculed for various reasons. People seem to at least pretend to get along with me when I do talk or participate in social activities.

Say hello to everyone no matter if theyre strangers, if you want people to not fear you.

i changed school 3 times this year because of moving, and in two of my schools I think that people did fear me, because I have tourettes syndrome/tics and am really jumpy, and sometimes I uncontrollably make noises (but I'm really good at controlling the volume now, so it's usually not too disturbing) but I would never get to stick around long enough for them to understand that I am a normal person and that I can't help the noises that I make, I hope they understand that!

In my new school, I don't think that people fear me... in al of my different classes people talk to me and ask me if I need help and they make me laugh a lot, so I think that they get that I am really a normal kid, that I have certain things about me that are different from them.

more dislike, then fear. i think people think that i am "weird" so they mainly just avoid/ignore my presence. although, people have called me "intimidating" before. i don't really think that i am a scary person per-se, but then again, i'm not on the outside looking outside of me. it is difficult to determine what people really "think" of you, because of social norms and expected behaviors. if someone were to piss me off badly, i'd say "watch out". because i can have quite the mean streak. otherwise i carry myself as inobtrusively as possible. socializing itself can be a tedious/wasteful process, unless it is in the realm of business, otherwise it all ends up just being wasteful, deluding, ego-boosting. imo. who knows though.

back in the day when i did a lot of drugs and stole s**t people feared me, or at least hated me. im rediculously skinny so kinda hard to fear. however, sometimes i get so angry i could literally kill someone.

Fear, hate... ya, people instantly dislike me and avoid me, unless it's for a brief staring contest. Sometimes I even say "I win!" when they look away.

I think that people are afraid of me. They tend to treat me as though I was some sort of fragile egg. I don't think that they know what I am capable of which is why they tend to act in that way. It pisses me off because it seems to me as though they are talking down to me - like I am some sort of child