Lying in social situations... anyone else?

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When they are asking "how are you?" unless they have an emotional interest it is usually to find out what you've been up to during the week. Some people like gossip, because they are unable to hold intelligent discussion about things that don't involve other people's business. So yeah, small talk and gossip

Yes I feel exactly the same when I'm asked ow I am I either ignore the person as I get confused or I tell them that I can't possibly know how I am as I could have some terrible disease and if I say I'm fine it will be a lie even if I don't know that I have a terrible disease.

Does that make sense or am I just rambling?

In my opinion; most "Lies" are generally an Aspie's self-defense mechanism - An attempt to get the heck out of there as fast as you possibly can.

If it comes to it, you can just text them the truth later ^_^

I think omitting certain details or generalizing, like when someone asks "how are you" and you say "not too bad." "pretty good" those aren't nessesarily lies. If you're having a real bad day, you could say "I'm hanging in there." But in those few seconds when you're answering that question of "how are you" you're trying to put a positive spin on something as to not throw negative energy in the air by saying something like "I'm actually doing really sh***y, thanks for asking ass."

In a way, that person asking how you are, is challenging you to find the positive spin on your day, or, challenges you to say something nice so the other person doesn't feel bad, thus making you a pretty decent person in my book......

This is different than making up elaborate stories or saying things that are completely false. People know when you're lying, and it makes them feel bad because they have to play along. At least I thiknk this is the case, I need more coffee........sleepy....

I used to have a hard time lying ( not a bad lire, I just couldn't/wouldn't do it) , but over the years I became good at using it as a defense mechanism and now I am pretty good at it, even being able to do it on-the-fly. I don't have to use it defensively, no longer being bullied, but I still find it useful to avoid awkward social situations.