Aspie girls with no close friends or relationships

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Do any of you know how nice it is to see that there are other women/girls out there who have similar characteristics or issues as I do?

I've never met another woman with Aspergers, at least knowingly. It's awful when you've only got NT's to give you a baseline of what "normal" is.

I'm an aspie girl. I've been bullied my entire life and i am often left feeling hurt when i realise someone i thought was my friend was using me or lying to me and its only just starting to make sense to me now that I've been diagnosed. I also wish I'd been diagnosed younger because maybe it would have stopped me wondering why everyone else seemed to be able to make friends but they didn't want to include me. I live on the sunshine coast qld and I have a partner but I would like some close friends. Would anyone like to email?

I have a partner but no close friends. I have always had trouble forming friendships. I would love to learn how to make friends more easily.

My partner is pretty domineering and doesn't like me to have my own friends.

I'll be chur friend ~hugs~

I'll be chur friend ~hugs~

I'll preface all of this by saying that I don't have a diagnosis.

Now that I'm grown and out in the world, I've slowly lost the circle of friends that I built in school. The last remnant was a guy I worked with but I was worried that his new girlfriend would have a problem with me so I tried to be friends with her too. Somehow I managed to alienate my guy friend and then his girlfriend dropped me as a friend, so I don't know if that was by design or if it was something that I managed all on my own.
So now I have a bunch of acquaintances but no close friends.

I tend to have better relationships with men than with women because women tend to rely more on subtle cues that I'm not very good at reading. I regret this and I keep trying to fix it, but so far my efforts haven't been successful.

As far as a significant other, I'm in kind of a weird place. I had a fairly long relationship (6 years) with a guy who was great and a lot of fun. We lived together and initially tried to have the typical American hetero relationship, but after a couple of years it just didn't work anymore. We tried seeing other people while still living together and that worked surprisingly well as long as dates weren't ever brought to the house (and everyone used protection always), but somehow there just wasn't enough between us to make something more lasting. I think it was mainly that we had different needs and I was more stubborn than he was. I'm fine being alone but if I'm with someone I need to really connect with that person. He was less okay with being alone and while it matters to him if he connects, I'm not sure we meant the same thing when we said "connect".

It shocks me that we split up almost 6 years ago! I've dated other people in the interim but I'm less and less interested in compromising and more and more comfortable being my own non-standard self. I'm 36 now and I suspect that if I do find a mate, they won't necessarily be standard American fare.
My type is either guy-from-the-IT-department or soft-butch-chick-with-social-deficits, so either way I get pretty much the same package (no offense to either genre, you both rock!)

I have a couple of close friends who really care about me and all. But I am not entirely comfortable with them. I get bored with them after an hour or two of "hanging out". I am not even comfortable with "hang out" concept.
But if I am going to be too picky about who I spend time with, I just have myself and I become really lonely.
So I do what I can with what I have.
I was in a wonderful relationship with this guy who I am almost entirely comfortable with. I can be totally myself with him.
But for the past few months I have been saying I want to break up because I am tired of long distance though I doubt I can cope without him. I have no idea why I want to break up with him and I have been breaking my head trying to hit on the reason which is convincing. So it is all rocky there.
Since I cant even make friends unless the other person is persistent, I doubt I will ever find another partner.

of course i'm a lonesome aspie girl. fate made it clear for us to be alone, live alone, and die alone.

I'm looking forward to mainstream virtual reality as I think I will get more social gratification if I feel as though I am actually physically hanging out with people. Even if it is online and in a digital world. I used to play MMORPGs a bit in college (still do very occasionally) and got a bit of a social 'buzz' chatting to other players that were there on a regular basis. Although I never met them in real life, we had deeper conversations than I have with most 'real life' people. However it never felt as though I was actually 'there' as I was sat behind a screen and not fully immersed. VR seems like a dream come true for aspies that want regular social contact with other humans, but without entirely venturing into reality. It feels far less awkward than reality, but more immersive than a computer game.