I sound/look serious a lot. Anyone else?

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Thank you every one who responded. I read it all and glad to not be the only one even though it can feel that way when I go out in public. Seems like everyone is NT but me...

I get the serious callcard quite a lot as well.

When I tell jokes, I always come across as serious

Concur! I am approaching 40 and finally getting a respite from the constant "Cheer up!" comments. Apparently at 40, no one is further expected to go around smiling like toothy wolves and speaking in juvenile slang. Thankfully. There is a light at the end of the tunnel- in all honesty the teens and twenties were rough years in terms of passing. It appears the NTs rein themselves in eventually, and we start making more social sense to them.

Seems to me that always makes jokes far funnier, the deadpan telling. My Dad was ace at that, never once broke and laughed and ruined it. I, for one, would find you hilarious. Maybe you need to change your crowd, not your style!

This happens to me all the time, and seriously, I am fed up with it. Other people just tend to assume that I am e.g. pissed off when i am not, or that I am in a dead earnest about something that is clearly a BS. I thought that they are masters in reading all the non-verbal cues!



Yeah - again. I have the same problem. I know I look like a wear a mask on, and that I appear uninterested because of it. I remember this incident when I was at the elementary school. I had been waiting for the result of my entrance exams (for my future high school) for weeks. We had a lecture of German lenguage, but I was not thinking about it. I was just thinking about the results of my examinations. Then suddenly, the door opened and another teacher came in - our class teacher. She was holding a paper in her hands and said that I was admitted. Everybody clapped, because I was the first student from our class that succesfully passed the entrance exams. Everybody was cheering, congratulating me, giving me a smack at the moment, but I was just standing there with the same blank expression on my face. The teacher was quite exasperated and said out loud, so the others could hear it: "Damn, aren´t you happy?" And the other kids started shouting things like: "Yeah, why dot you celebrate?!" But I wasn´t moved. The deed was done, I was relieved, so I did not care about the exams anymore. Why should I pretend somethingwhen I did not think it was needed? But I saw that other people EXPECTED me to be happy, so I faked a smile and said something bleak like: "Yeah, um... I am happy," and added a very fake: "Ha ha." It was THERE, in that very moment, when I realised that the NTs want the others to behave like them - like sheeps. I still don´t quite understand it.

I almost always have a neutral facial expression except when I'm having fun. I also rarely smile. I lack emotion in my voice a lot as well.

people never really said that though a few times. people said i had a mean look like i wanted to beat someone up. people just say im funny