Anyone living the sheltered life?

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I live like this as well, only cause I spend a great deal of time doing schoolwork

It's really unhealthy, plus it isn't helped by the amount of violence that we
are exposed to in today's society

Try and get involved with volunteer work. Its a great way to meet friends
and build on important life skills

I do volunteer work twice a week, it gives me some social contact, i learn new skills, provides some routine. It might be harder for you without a car, but maybe someone in your family could help you out with travel. I only started because a job seeking program suggested it, but I really like it now.

yup, I barely go out. I probably left the house a total of 2 times in 2012

And I thought I was the only one going through this. No job, can't drive, etc. My mother works during the day, and my grandmother is disabled, so I can't get out of the house until Mom comes home from work. It's really depressing because I have nothing to do, and no face-to-face contact with my friends, most of whom I text or talk to online.

Well, I try to get out of the house, despite my unemployment even if its just to a coffee shop to use the wifi, as staying in all the time can really mess you up mentally, plus it would probably piss off my parents.

I work in retail. I am even well liked by customers and coworkers. However it is an act. I have no friends and little contact with the world outside of work. I am so exhausted with making the effort of establishing eye contact with someone after the initial dread, dozens of "yeah" and "mmhmm" replies in conversations because I want to say something but I don't know what to say, having to watch the pitch of my own voice and going over every word that is said to me 2 or 3 times in my mind to figure out if I am intrepreting it correctly. I keep to myself all weekend, its my mental haven from all the extra effort I feel like I am putting in just to function nominally in public.

im the same as well. i dont have a job and i cant drive. im supposed to go to college next month but i have a feeling it wont happen.

I guess i'm in a rountine so to say. I do the same thing almost everyday, social interaction for me is overwelming. I just got back from christmas celebrations and i'm exausted. other than the special times a year thats all the social interaction I get, I'm hoping once I live in a bigger city that will change.

Yeah. I live so desolate.

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I kind of live sheltered because I am a freshman in college and moved to a single because I couldn't take having a roommate, or that roomate in particular. I've always been like that but my parents thought it would be better to be in close quarters with another human. Now I'm kind of just doing my own thing since I haven't really made any friends this first semester. I tried to the first week but nobody thinks the same way as me and it seems like a bigger hassle than it's worth. I don't have that much desire to have friends, or guys at least. Every time I see a girl I find attractive, my thoughts are cycled through the reasons why I've never had a girlfriend and how lonely I feel when I see them. I've been more sheltered for most of my life, however, by my family, and I had some suicidal thoughts this year. Seems to be better now, I'm getting on a new med.

This loneliness is a primary reason why I want to move to Los Angeles, as an aside.

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I've done the same pretty much too for the last 4 years. Ha look at my avatar, I didn't even get dressed to take my picture in my completely dark room with my face lit only by my monitor.
I don't know if I'm really depressed though, I'm just thinking really hard about what to do with my life and don't want to do the wrong thing pretty much. Every couple of months I get stuck on an idea like police officer or IT or blacksmith or autism counsellor, ect but then after a couple of weeks of thinking about it I just can't see myself doing it in 10 years, and then it already feels wasted so I start thinking again.

Something in me tells me I have to move to another country or something and "start over", be able to start over in every friendship and such as the ideas that kill my "plan ideas" tend to be about stuff like "well I suppose in x years I'll meet this old friend from school again, and then we may become friends again on some level so how will my new job be interesting/helpful/whatever for them". Yes I know that's a "that's not good" issue, but I don't think I can get around it so I may just have to follow it. And it's not the only thing that keeps me, it's a bunch of other stuff too like family and general idea of how my life would look in the Netherlands.) But then of course moving to another country without doing any professional study yet and on disability and without having saved any money is pretty not done. (I mean I suppose there's refugees and such that do make this happen but I don't know about the stories behind that.)

I want to write a university somewhere on the planet and get in on a full grant/scholarship if that's realistic. I mean I understand there's hundreds if not thousands of universities around and one may very well give me this option, but writing a letter to each and single one of them would take years too, and I don't know how I'd do with constant rejection.

Anyway, enough about me.

Kinda. I only get out of my house to go to school or to other places I must go to, and my parents always drive me to those places. I never hang out with the few friends I have, and to be honest I don't want to, because I prefear to see them in the places I usually see them in. The only place I really enjoy going to is the gym where I do karate, that is helping me with balance and motor coordination in general. My mother is trying to help me going out more currently.

I relate to the OP. I am institutionalised, in a sense.