Does anyone else do this?

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If someone unfriends you on facebook, you just go one step further and block/ban them? To me, it seems if you're unfriending someone, you're saying, "I REJECT YOU" and/or "I WANT TO END MY ASSOCIATION WITH YOU."

I'm just making 'em live with the consequences of that decision. There is a real person behind the status updates, after all.

Harsh?

I don't really notice when people unfriend me. It's just a social networking tool so I don't prescribe meaning to it.

They might just be doing it because they haven't talked to you for a while. Some people do this to weed out any outdated contacts - nothing personal.

well, see, i don't have tons of people on my facebook. i have to know the person before i add them. so if someone adds me, it's because they're *real* to me. i know some people who have thousands of people on theirs and know maybe 1/10th of them, and i don't understand it.

Yeah I know that some people do that and there's nothing wrong with only friending your close friends. In fact, I admire it. My more liberal approach has gotten some sour results.

If it bothers you so much, why don't you ask the person about it? Maybe they didn't know that it meant so much to you.

I generally do not un-friend people but have been un-friended by people that made an obvious conscious decision to do so-I do not block or make things worse-I always have said-piss is not a good liquid to put out a bridge fire.

Well, it doesn't *bother* me per se. I was just wondering if others went to that length. If it's argument-related, i don't mind, people get testy, need time to cool off, and i'm cool with that. It's the unexpected, unexplained unfriending that always feels a little...personal, i guess?

As for asking the question: i've learned in my old life that don't ask a question unless you really want the answer. And yet, when I hit that "block" button, it feels good, and I don't think about them any more.

hahahaha I love this ^ so true.

I have a friend who was going to do her thesis on the destructive impact that facebook has on social relationships. She ultimately decided to go with another topic, but I've been interested in this ever since.

Sounds to me that if you're "deleting" the relationship with the person when you block them, your problem is solved. I've read that the best way to get over a bad relationship (even a bad friendship) is to get to a place where you just don't even think about the person anymore, or worry what they think, or what they're doing, etc.

I'm super-easy to get along with; i don't generally friend people i don't really know or haven't had any contact with, and if someone makes a request i usually spend a little time on their FB wall to see what they're about.

I've only had to ban four people directly myself; one because they had turned into a spambot (Not their fault, they came back later), two because they played a mean practical joke on me, and one for insane anti-Semitic postings (dead Israelis, etc).

So I'm a good FB'er in that regard.

I don't really block people or get into heated arguments. I generally don't know who it is when people unfriend me.

AWKWARD POST SCRIPT!

said person i just blocked came by my house--i haven't seen him in four years.
nothing was ever said about it.