Aspies: How do you get along with other Aspies?

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I have Asperger's and I seem to get along with other Aspie's the best. The best friend I've ever had is an Aspie. We used to live in the same city but both moved. I still talk to him all the time online.

I met another Aspie online. I don't know how old they are, or their gender, because they like to keep it private, but I am sure they are an adult who definitely lives in the USA. We talk online sometimes.

I have another friend who has Asperger's. He lives in the same city as me and according to his mother, he does like me as a friend, but he just gets nervous and doesn't like getting out of the house.

Enough about me. How do you get along with other Aspies?

Well, I get along OK with most people, although it is usually stressful if I have to socialize for too long. I have one Aspie friend and we get along very well. Perhaps it's because we can understand each other so well. Many of the people I worked with before retirement were most likely Aspie too, so that may explain why I had very few difficulties in the workplace. (BTW I was an engineer working for a high tech firm.)

My husband and I get along well because we each don't take it personally when the other of us needs our own space. As long as we are in the same room, that works for us. If anything, we have to make sure we don't get too much time away from each other or we drift apart. While we each have our own sensitivities, we don't think it's weird that one of us is a compulsive hand washer (him) or that a meltdown ensues if there is a trip to the mall without a nap (me). He and I have pretty much the same circle of friends from high school. I'm not sure how aspie some of them are or not, but we were always the weird ones in school so we all get along with each other.

To date, I think I have met only one or two Aspies, both undiagnosed or not revealing it to me.

The first is my cousin; we are both weird and get along fine.

The second was fine until I think he thought he was inviting me out on a date and we ended up discussing his special interest the entire evening with no leeway in the conversation for anything I had to say. So I was very unhappy about that, and for various other reasons we ended it. Before I even knew that we were dating to boot. Which is sad because that was my only date so far. I only found out it was a date from analyzing it with my best friend three weeks later.

Interaction between us usually doesn't happen much like interaction between me and NTs tends to be absent.

i only know a couple aspies. i get along with them okay. my husband is NT.

Just about everybody I have met I know or suspect has Aspergers I actually find very difficult to get along with. A curiously large amount of them seem to regard me as a role model of sorts and start following me around when I usually like being left alone, and I end up hating them. It's very depressing and makes me feel kind of bad. Though, I think my Aspergers is very mild, especially compared with theirs...

Since I found AVEN I finally feel like I've found a group of people I relate to in a huge variety of ways though.

I've only met a couple and I got on with them fine. One girl, we chatted about Aspergers stuff and it was nice to be able to talk to someone else who knows what it's like, and we could compare different aspects.

All of my best friends are other aspies. I find them much more honest, straightforward and easy to understand than NTs.

Two aspies = communication deficits squared in my experience. Of course, I had the benefit of talking music and politics with a buddy of mine...constantly...for years...

Sometimes it's alright, other times it isn't. Whilst we all have more in common from the start, we're still individuals and may just not...see eye to eye (which must be difficult due to lack of eye contact but that was a rubbish joke ).
However, AS-AS interactions have been better for me personally.

I've only met two Aspies, one I briefly spoke to - but like me, he didn't say much. And the other was more talkative, we chatted mostly about video games and computer-related stuff.

My friends are NTs, they're fairly sociable and outgoing, much more than myself but they're different from the more extroverted, "normal" types. Some of them are outsiders among NTs, which is *probably* why I'm friends with them. Although one of my friends is rather extroverted, but still kind of an outsider.

it really depends on the person with asperger. I've meet asperger guys who were jerks. I've meet asperger girls who were stuck up.

I've known just a few aspies in all my life. I saw them 5 or 6 times, and I've never tried to interact with them. I just was there and I went on and on talking about my interests, so I think I was too busy to actually interact with them.

I think it really depends on the other aspies a lot. It can be very hard for two aspies to get along but often in my experience two similar aspies tend to get each other ( at least more so than with an NT)

I haven't met too may apsies myself, though. I have only met one guy whom I know to have Aspergers and we got along quite well. On the other hand, lotsa people at work have aspies traits and I don't really get along with them that well.

I would say quite well.