Aspies: How do you get along with other Aspies?

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My best friend is autistic; while in some ways we are different, we come so well together over the things we have in common.

I went to school with a lot of Aspies, so I had mostly Aspie friends. I still keep in touch with a lot of them. Sometimes it's difficult to socialize with them because they all have their own different interests, but I generally get along with them.

I have two aspie friends, the one I get along with well but I get confused around her sometimes because she quotes movies and TV shows constantly (we've had a few misunderstandings when I thought she was saying something to me personally when she was quoting something).
My other aspie friend I find is the easier person to talk to in the world.

I get along much better with other people with Asperger's.

I guess I'm different from the bunch: I haven't met many fellow aspies I can get along with. Its either because I'm too forward in talking to some of them or they're complete as*holes (ignoring me, pompousness, jerkiness, etc.) The ones i did get along with in the past have ended up becoming distant and unpleasant. It's gotten to the point where I don't plan on trying to communicate with other aspies or NTs in that matter. I guess I just suck with people or something. :/

I only know two other people diagnosed aspie - one was my ex-partner's boss. We were deliberately seated together at a party as it was thought that we would get on in view of this - trouble was his special interests either had to do with an area of IT which was completely obscure and not very interesting to me, or the engineering of railway bridges which I only have a superficial interest with. I started talking about running and Olympic trivia and he just cut me off and sat and sulked the rest of the time. So it can be nightmarish if your interests do not intersect at any point.

The other person is someone I chatted to on OKCupid for a while - we keep in touch now and again.

Most of my friends are NT males who are into sci-fi, cult tv and that sort of thing.

I find it matters if somebody can handle depth and intensity more than if they have autistic brain wiring. I have been disinterested in many NT and Aspie people. My closest friends are female gifted NTs.

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Quite well for the most part, but it really depends on the aspie. I know of perhaps hundreds of aspies due to my involvement in the autism community and autism support communities, as well as through my speaking engagements on ASD...so there is quite a variety of personalities. There are some that I get along with more than others for various reasons.

I don't have very many friends but 2 of them are aspies.

The 3 of us have similar obsessions so that might be why we get on well together.

I have met on Asperger girl that I could talk to about anything, and we understood each other perfectly, only sometimes her special interest got a little bit weird for me. I've tried to meet other Aspies afterwards and went to a group meeting, I couldn't relate with anyone there and some of them were rude or where aggressive. So I don't know, I wonder if NTs have similar problems, they find people they get along fantastically and people they just cant get a long with.

Either we're great friends or hate each other. With girls we're both too shy to talk to each other and both awkward.

In my life I've found my best friends and worst enemies were often times Aspies. Usually very little middle ground.

I haven't met anyone with Aspergers in real life yet but I'm hoping to eventually. I can imagine though that it would in theory be easier for two people with Aspergers to get on with each other as they will both be able to understand how each other thinks and how their mind works etc

Depends on the Aspie. Generally speaking, I get along much better with other Aspies in person than online though.

To be perfectly frank, I sometimes find it harder to get along with certain Aspies than I do with some NTs. There are quite a few Aspies who are extremely closed minded and rigid in their thinking, and this creates problems for our relationship, as I view myself as being quite flexible and tolerant of differences. Likewise, there are plenty of NT's like that as well. It all depends on the individual.

If I had to rank the pleasure of my interactions with particular groups, I would rank it like this.

Open minded NTs=Open minded Aspies>Closed Minded Aspies>Closed minded NT's.

I rank closed minded, rigid, inflexible NT's at the absolute bottom because at least the closed minded Aspies can understand my condition.

I'd like to make more Asperger's/autistic friends! Most of my current friends are somewhere between NT and myself. I've been working hard on communicating with NT's the past few years (in large part for job seeking purposes recently), and I'd like to make a similar effort in the opposite direction from me as well! Not only is it fair in my opinion, but I'll develop an even better understanding of AS than my own experience affords, and I can help those "worse off" than myself in terms of communication with NT's with said communication!