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Full title: List 3 to 5 characteristics that people who are mean towards you have in common

I realize that coincidentally or not, girls who are mean towards me have so many characteristics in common that I can't possibly list them all, so I'll just list 5 of these characteristics. I'm not trying to imply that any girl who exhibits any of these characteristics is a mean girl. Who knows? A girl who exhibits all these characteristics can possibly be genuinely nice towards me.

#1: Many people comment that mean girls appear confident and relaxed in photos, but I doubt so. Most mean girls whom I know stick to the same few poses whenever they are photographed. For instance, some mean girls bare all their upper teeth when they smile, some mean girls tilt their chins downwards and widen their eyes in an attempt to "appear cute". Most of these mean girls plaster photos of themselves having fun with their friends all over their blogs. Some of them even admit on their blogs that their hobbies include "camwhoring" (taking countless photos of yourself).

#2: Most mean girls whom I know are all-rounders. In other words, they excel at everything, including sports. However, based on my own experiences, I conclude that extremely few mean girls are school athletes. Coincidentally or not, most school athletes whom I know have always treated me very nicely. (Maybe they badmouth me behind my back, but hey, as long as you treat me nicely, I don't really mind what you say or do behind my back. I can't possibly ban people from badmouthing me.) I suspect that maybe these school athletes share a code of honor among themselves. Most mean girls are active in the performing arts or the Scouting movement.
Note 1: I define "performing arts" as singing/dancing/playing instrument(s)/performing in plays.
Note 2: I have no clue how you address girls involved in your country's Scouting movement--Girl Guides? Girl Scouts? I have zero experience in Scouting, but based on what I have heard so far, many Girl Guides companies in my country (WHICH SHALL NOT BE NAMED HERE) are run as though they are military units. Teachers have very little say in these school-based companies where Girl Guides are classified by age. The older you are, the more powerful you are. Girl Guides allegedly must address their seniors as "Madam" at all times. Madams emphasize the importance of etiquette every session. If any Girl Guide flouts any rule (e.g. tying knots too slowly), Madams will punish the Girl Guide. The most popular punishment is doing push-ups while the 2nd most popular is doing jumping jacks. Madams expect all Girl Guides to cheer loudly and regularly while performing various tasks such as pitching tents. Personally, I do know some Madams who will get upset when they think that their juniors haven't been cheering enthusiastically enough.)

#3: Most mean girls excel in their studies. Teachers often praise mean girls for having excellent public speaking skills. These mean girls not only have good diction, but also possess the charisma to capture their audience's attention whenever they give presentations. So far, based on my own experiences, nearly every girl who emcees at school events turns out to be a mean girl.

#4: Most mean girls say through their blogs that they disapprove of "the masses" for being too mundane. They say that they are working hard to prove that they are unique and extraordinary. Ironically, one of these mean girls once scolded me, saying, "You should imitate the people around you! Stop being yourself!" These mean girls never consider their clique-mates as members of "the masses". Most mean girls are clique leaders. They usually give their cliques names (these names are mostly inspired by clique members' initials) and/or describe their own clique as a family. (I know a clique leader who calls herself Grandma and nicknames her clique-mates Ma, Daughter, Granddaughter etc.) They are very generous towards their clique-mates, meaning that they are always spending a large % of their time and money on their clique-mates.

#5: I know some mean girls' mothers...
1. Many mean girls are on exceptionally excellent terms with their mothers.
2. Many of these mothers are highly successful in the corporate world. They are either bosses or senior-level executives who report directly to the bosses.
3. Many of these mothers are well-groomed and they have taught their daughters how to be well-groomed. Personally, I think that many mean girls only seem dazzlingly beautiful when they are wearing makeup. They seem plain without makeup.

Interesting thread!!

In my case (regarding both genders):

1) They have many many friends

2) They have the exact opposite interests and opinions as mine

3) I'm their only target of dislike

I think there is some truth in the idea that we are tied to those we hate, so those who are mean to us are probably a bit like us but dislike that part of themselves

That could be true.

1. They were intolerant of shy, quiet people.
2. They were intolerant of people who didn't do well at sports.
3. They assumed that if you weren't like them, you were a lesser being.

4. They strongly dislike homosexual men.

Huh? I was thinking of the mean girls, but I guess this would apply to boys too.

My 3 include:

1. Mean girls often like being the "queen bee."
2. Mean girls often have influence to poison the minds of others about their "target."
3. Mean girls are often really and truly insecure people.

Gender won't matter in this case I'm afraid.

False.


"Study Finds Kids Who Bully Have High Self-Esteem."

http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH/WSIHW000/333/8014/374508.html

http://today.ucla.edu/portal/ut/bullying-jaana-juvonen-233108.aspx

Bullies often have low self esteem and put down others to make themselves feel better. Often bullies target someone who makes them feel threatened.

Not neccessarily false and please see this link:

http://www.heartlightministries.org/blo ... ean-girls/

QFT! this needs to be put on large ribbons and flown over cities.

1) they are extroverts
2) they are gossip mongers and usually they dont talk with you because they are talking behind you about you.
3) they are good with extracurricular activities and taking decision
4) they are good at borrowing things from you and not returning it back, they are good at asking favours and not giving you any favours
they are good at manipulating you and most of all good at pulling you down by degrading you
5) also last but not least they hoodwink you all the time, fool you, pull your leg and they take advantage of naive, gullible people

will update if i remember more

1) A superiority complex.
2) Social/ peer pressure is important to them (do certain things/ act certain ways to appear "cool" or some-such-nonsense)
3) Are incompatible with me (might be sense of humor or interests)

All of these are gender neutral but I haven't been having issues with girls (which is to say I haven't been having much contact with girls)

I think the insecurity can be both ways for a bully, some have older brothers or sisters that bully them
and they learn to bully off them and do it to feel happier about themselves, sorta like the tiggy game,
they don't wanna be "it" so they pass on the "shite" to others, the problem is the "shite" tends to overflow
into one person too much and then they feel a scapegoat....and sometimes they don't have older bro's or sisters' or
are just more the "special" child of the parent so they get higher self esteem because their parents approve of them
(reminds me of harry potter, the fat kid who bullied harry was loved and overaccepted by his parents, in their eyes, he could do no wrong)

Thanks for those links, I have always known that to be true for the bullies I saw, and here's finally a study published in English that says the same thing. I posted a Norwegian one earlier. It's a very popular belief but it's wrong and quite frankly as ridiculous as "they're mean to you because they're jealous".
And they do not learn it in most cases, it comes natural to them. Some start as early as 2!

It's a hate behavior like racism. It doesn't matter what the victim do or is like, something about them trigger the wrong type, same as the hated race/ethnicity will trigger a racist.



Things people who were mean to me had in common:


1. Extroverts

2. popular and often leader types in the environment I encountered them

3. socially adept and self confident

4. like gossip

5. (for the males) aggression. They beat me in ways they wouldn't other girls, not even ones who also were subjected to their bullying, but there were other rules for me. Something about me really ticked them off.

6. they knew what they were doing and they relished it