How do you tell when someone is two-faced?

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Like when before meeting them. I think they're bad and don't notice them until the damage has been done. I would like to know before I become close with them.

You know someone is two faced when he makes decisions by flipping a coin.

Another indicator is a facial deformity.

perhaps by reputation.

I think it's all in their body language, how they communicate and their tone. If their words dont match their body language, they dont mean what they say. If they over-emphasis without reason, they're being phoney.

Many aspies are probably confused as being two-faced based off the "tone doesn't match body language" idea.
A good example of someone that is two-faced for me is simple:
Says one thing to your face, says a different thing behind your back or even his actions (from what you hear or observe when he thinks you aren't around) don't match what he tries to show you. Not going to get into the "personality disorder" debate on this one.

Two faced people will do whatever they can in their power to put on a front with you and even cover it up. I used to have such trouble reading those types of social cues too. When it happened, it left me clueless.

From what I have experienced two face people is that you will see scenarios like these.
1. They say one thing to your face and even attempt to act a certain way too. (For instance, they will call you their best friend and talk about how you are a sweet person and etc."I will have to invite you out for coffee sometime).
2. You are never included in any of their social gatherings and yet everyone else is. They can boast to you later about doing such and such with other people who you associate with.( "Hi girl, I got together with Suzie Q, Jeff Z and Roy A and went to the Les Miserables together." That movie is so good and I do hope you catch it.")
3. They never seem to come to your things (They will say yes and never show up.)
4. They often make excuses. (For instance, in the case of the party you invited them too, "My cousin had a flat tire and I needed to help them." Then they don't call and will use something like, "Oh, I lost my cell phone and so I was not able to call you. Yet they had other ways of communication).
5. Others who they associate with will come to you for confirmation on certain matters because two faced people can lie.
6. When you are going through a rough time and need advice, they will often brush you off with, "Oh that is your problem. I am not getting in the middle of this."

You are very welcome. Two facers always puzzle me. However, one of the main ways I can tell is that look at whether they are really interested in you or not.


One of their red flags has to do with their actions which speak louder than words.

Although I would like to think that I am surrounded by them, I can't help but think I am the cause of their actions.

Yes because two faced people either don't understand or they probably feel bad about themselves being around you and so they do themselves the honor to put themselves up behind your back in a passive aggressive way without admitting things to you or anyone else.

Makes me ask what the difference between two-faced and trying to fit in...
If you believe one thing, but tell someone with a gun something different so as to disarm them, is that two-faced?
If you try to make peace between warring factions, is that two-faced?
I've always seen myself as two-faced for the above reasons, and thus often hate myself.

Its hard for me to tell whether someones two-faced until I have seen them doing both. But once you do see the bad side call it quits and don't play their game. Its very likely it will continue and no sense hurting yourself more. Better an enemy in front then a betrayer behind.