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Lucywlf
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27 Feb 2013, 11:21 pm

Apparently when I'm talking about things that I feel emotional about, either good or bad, I don't regulate my tone of voice very well and I upset and embarrass people. They stop wanting to talk about things around me or wanting to hear anything I have to say. This must be why people at school thought I was a gossip when I was confiding with my friends. I don't know what to do about it except never say anything again, no matter how much I want or need to talk about something.



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28 Feb 2013, 12:20 am

at times i get too loud without noticing. when someone points it out, I just say "sorry" and lower my voice. no one has ever held it against me long-term.



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28 Feb 2013, 2:25 am

I am constantly shushed and I hate it completely. My mom then turns around and says "you NEVER share anything with me!" er.... After being shushed umpteen times a day for years... you just tend to not want to talk anymore...

Yet there are days I brave the waters.. just to be shushed again lol... I can so relate to you in this...



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28 Feb 2013, 8:38 am

Cathylinn, nobody ever actually tells me I'm getting too loud or too emotional; I don't know why. Only my husband will help me out in these matters. I guess they just suppose I'm doing it for some evil reason. :(

Valkyrie, my mother was always telling me to keep my voice down too, and I hated it. I would get mad and have a meltdown; I would just feel like I was going to explode.



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01 Mar 2013, 11:22 pm

I have this issue a lot. :c I tend to say things I meant to be quiet really, really loudly.

And OMG, the shooshing it the worst because then I feel like I'm not allowed to talk or emote at all. And it's like, sometimes what I was trying to say meant a lot to me. Dx

I wish I knew how to deal with this or offer some advice or something. But the only thing I've come to think about it is, just let it be and do your best to tone it down if you can remember. Anyone who isn't like a total jerk should have some compassion about this little quirk.



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02 Mar 2013, 1:02 am

My voice tone jumps between mumbling and people not understanding me, me talking too loud to where family members ask me to tone my voice volume down a bit, and speaking way too fast and I have to repeat myself at a normal pace.

I got put into speech therapy for about three years because of them.



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02 Mar 2013, 1:21 pm

RaspberryFrosty wrote:
My voice tone jumps between mumbling and people not understanding me, me talking too loud to where family members ask me to tone my voice volume down a bit, and speaking way too fast and I have to repeat myself at a normal pace.


I have the same problem.


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02 Mar 2013, 11:31 pm

Now that you're aware of it, make it a point to whisper whenever you are talking about a topic you feel emotional about. Only you know what those topics are. Play it safe. It also shows that you are putting effort to being more discrete, knowing you've embarrassed others in the past.



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04 Mar 2013, 10:11 pm

When I was a teenager I used to do this without realizing it all the time. If you make an effort to speak quieter in general it might become habit, and when you do break into your "loud voice" it won't be as overpowering.



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04 Mar 2013, 10:28 pm

You might need a friend or peer to cue you discreetly when your voice gets too loud. This way you will know the moment it happens and in future, better regulate yourself.


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