So how old do you all feel? (socially and physically)

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Really? I couldn't have told that from your posts, you seem mature and knowledgeable. Or does this forum count as entirely intellectual?

I wouldn't be surprised if this question got similar responses in a forum full of NTs.

It would. But here we know we have a range of difficulties so therefore there should be plenty of people who are really, really behind their own peers depending on the environment that they are in.

And some of those NTs may not be perfectly fit socially themselves anyways. They too might have some unknown handicap but not have criteria to consider themselves AS patients.

Well, let's put it this way.....
I'm 30 years old and people mistake me for a teenager. When I was 20, I could've passed for 13. I don't know if this is a result of genetics(my mother and grandmother look years younger) or because of Asperger's.

I also act like a big 14 year old, without the boy-craziness.
My apartment resembles a teenager's hangout with stuffed animals, little toys and girly decor more than it does a grown woman's apartment. Even my 17 year old sister doesn't have as much teenagery stuff as I do. I'm sort of a free spirit and I get excited about simple stuff others don't notice plus I don't have children which would've worn me out by now.

Now intellectualy and spiritually, I started outpacing those 30 years older when I was in my teens. Within, I feel like an old wise soul with high intelligence who wonders why people are so irrational and make life so hard for themselves and others. But, socially, I feel like such a baby in comparison to others my age.

Chronologically, late 40's. I look 30 and nobody ever believes I'm as old as I am. My bones know their age, though, especially after a fall (pretty common for me) or before it rains.

I don't keep close RL friends, but have a pretty steady group of kids 8-13 that I play pokemon and mess with robots with. We get pretty silly and I have a great time. I am really concious of our age difference, because I have to be. Since I have (adult) sons of my own, most of the parents are ok with me (some are jealous because I get along with their kids so well), but most of them think I'm harmless and weird.

I have a lot of acquaintences from dog training. They are fun to be with because most of them are goal oriented and want to train and talk about training. I have a rough time of it when they start talking about "adult social stuff" because then I get deadly bored and just wander off. Not good for making connections...

The guys at work are the best, and are learning to understand me, so they give me about the right amount of "society". They are all young enough to be my kids (but I don't look or act like their mothers!) so they don't expect anything social from me "after hours".

I mostly prefer kids and preteens because they haven't learned not to invest themselves wholly in whatever is interesting and fun.

I hate worse than anything to be "trapped" with boring people (which means almost everyone). I think that's what I dread most about social stuff, parties and cocktail hours, and stuff. Most people are just not able to talk about real things, or are not interested in what I am, or able to just SHUT UP and watch the wind in the trees or water or whatever and physically experience stuff without yapping about b*llsh*t.

With many kids on the other hand, we can have a lovely time digging holes and watching them fill with water, hunting for snakes and bugs, or whatever.

Ditto, though, my state bounces from 2 - 17, intellectually, I am more like a professeur.

Well, when I started this thread, I shaved. Now that the face fuzz is back I look to be only a few years younger than I really am. I look maybe 21 now rather than 17.

Now that I see that many of you have the same descriptions, knowing I am not unique in this area. Are you all okay with your social capabilities? Or do they leave you with even an ounce of frustration?

Physically for some the youthfulness may be an advantage, especially older members. Or do other people think you are much younger and avoid you?

In the book "Children, youth and adults with Asperger Syndrome – integrating multiple perspectives" (2005, 1st edition, Jessica Kingsley Publishers), Peter Jansen puts it this way:

"At 24 years of age, I feel I am a foreign element here in the world of adults. I'm never sure if I belong in the category of "adult", "adolescent", or "child". I am caught between the three. I definitely have the thaughts and feelings of a man, the personality of an adolescent, and some of the needs and vunerabilities of a child. All these are apparent at different times. In terms of development, my therapist asked me where I thought I fell within these three categories. My category does not seem to be static. There are times, situations both social and personal, when I feel in turns like an adult, an adolescent, and a child."

I'm in my twenties, but most people if they have to guess put me about 35.
That's strangly enough about the age I feel most of the time. When things go really wrong, I feel like I'm 50 or something.

SOCIALZING IS REALLY HARD EVEN IN MY SOCIAL GROUP IM KIND OF OFF BY MYSELF .THEY RREASNYL TEST ME THEY TOLD MY PARENT EVERYONE SAY SAME THING IM ON THE LEAVEL OF A TEEN BUT MY COPING SKILL ARE LOWER .I GET ALONG WITH KIDS AND TEENS IT HARD WITH ANYONE OVER 20. UNLESS THEY HAVE A GFAMILY MEMBER WITH AUTISM IN THERE .THEN WERE FRIENDS CUSE THEY JUST LET ME DO MY THING .WORK ALLWAYS BAD .SO IM HAPPY LATY CUSE IM NOT WORKING IT TO STREEFULL AND HARD

Physically I feel old, I have lots of aches and pains and physical weaknesses. Mentally I'm probably mature.

I GET CCARD I JUST TURND 39 BUT GET TAKEN FOR 22 TO 25
AND WHEN I HAVE A MELTDOWN MORE LIKE 5 LOL

Emotionally and Socially I feel about 12.

I don't act it though, but I do come across as about 18.

I don't have alot of energy, I wish I had more

Sometimes, I feel like I'm 40 and I will never catch up to peers my own age. Most of my friends are older than me. I can't relate to other 20 year olds.

Physically - Most would give me about 23-25 (some have said younger) in physical appearance, my knees would make me feel like I'm 60 due to advanced osteoarthritis as well as arthritis in hands and wrists and various other health issues like asthma and IBS and female reproductive organ related issues.
Socially - Late Teens-Early 20's
Emotionally - Mid-Late Teens (still have a hard time coping with a lot of things emotionally)
Chronologically - 31 (will be 32 in Nov.)

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