Does fear hold you back from socialising?

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i am glad that you can understand what i say and your endorsement is likely to make me post more things in future,
i will now look at your post history.

If you added the words "and so on and so on" once in a while, you talk like Slavoj Zizek
I can relate to your story with the hairdresser though heh

i never said "too long to quote" so whatever you said in relation to what you hallucinated that you thought i said is wrong.

Yea yea, I just didn't want to stretch the screen since your post was so long.

To answer your question: yes, sometimes.

I generally lack interest in socialising but I have no real issues with doing so confidently, if not necessarily with grace and proficiency. I can speak in front of a crowd with relatively little shaking albeit talking even faster than I usually do and just talking to someone is fine. I tend to be a little bit apprehensive about approaching people but it's more out of a desire to avoid being unnecessarily rude. Social anxiety and AS are obviously not the same thing, although often comorbid. I definitely do not have social anxiety, but one of my friends had it and it got to the point that he had to be homeschooled because he just couldn't put up with being around lots of people at all. It was a real shame and although I still talk to him I haven't physically seen him in years.

I have to say that I absolutely agree with what you said. Most of my social difficulty comes from fear. I find on rare occasions when I'm in the zone and don't feel as nervous I find I'm pretty outgoing and can socialize pretty well. Of course I can still be a little quirky but 90% of the time I feel im pretty smooth socially.

I have to say that I absolutely agree with what you said. Most of my social difficulty comes from fear. I find on rare occasions when I'm in the zone and don't feel as nervous I find I'm pretty outgoing and can socialize pretty well. Of course I can still be a little quirky but 90% of the time I feel im pretty smooth socially.

I know exactly what you mean, it feels like the fear of messing up is chaining me to my hypothetical seat and I can't engage in a conversation without feeling like if I mess up no one will talk to me for the rest of my life. It's very frustrating, I agree.

It certainly does.

For me, it's not so much a fear of socializing as it is that I just don't like doing it. It exhausts me, and I always have to go home and get in that alone time so as to recharge.

Socializing has always been a chore for me. I dread it, especially when it comes up without little to no warning. I fear that I'm going to mess up when socializing, and thus, I always resist a social situation when possible

It depends on the situation for me. If I'm hanging out socially with friends, I'm very outgoing and open. If I'm in a work situation, I'm afraid to share much about myself. At every job I've ever had I've been labeled "the quiet one". I'm not sure why this is the case. Perhaps it's because I only hang out socially with people I know very well,

For me it is not fear of the person, rather fear of the hassle of having to engage with the person.

I wish it did.

For me it is somewhat, I fear social interaction because I don't know what to say to most things, I can't think of anything I would want to say yet sometimes and I feel like I should say something to combat the dead end of a conversation I have with almost everyone. When I am not afraid to speak up I will ramble and seem to confuse the person I am trying to speak with and they will give me this weird look like it's never what they expected to hear from me, or try to cut me off quickly, which leads back to fear of saying anything in the first place, then I will give up and say whatever then I will be avoided for a time, then I will give it another go and so on.