Being more comfortable around girls

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Yes, I am more comfortable around girls. Don't know why, I think I find ( some of them ) easier to talk to. It could be because I prefer close friends, and it's easier to become close friends with a girl. Don't know..

Sometimes, girls are more willing to listen to you than other guys are. I find that there are very few guys I can talk to who either understand me or who I can sit down with and talk about my feelings and feel comfortable at the same time. I'm actually more feminine in some ways than my roommates, and they're both girls. I'm a dude. Somehow, I'm the one giving them fashion advice.

Part of me thinks that girls are more understanding because they are more in tune with their own personal feelings than guys are. Opening up is natural for them because they lean on each other for support all the time, whether it be a breakup, a girl who's being mean, a bad test score, or pretty much any problem, they talk to each other more. Meanwhile, guys seem to stress individuality, that by being independent and not having to rely on others, we're stronger. That by not allowing us to be touched by our feelings, we're stronger. Some guys are completely unrelateable because they don't talk about their emotions enough. Some guys are like robots, seemingly having no emotions at all. And some are complete jerks. There's at least one in every crowd.

I'm not saying that girls are the greater sex, that they're so perfect that we should all be surrounding ourselves with more lady friends than guy friends. But when you surround yourself with people who are in tune with themselves and their own humanity, their own feelings, it opens up the way for communication. Communication is the key to any relationship.

I'm female but I get along better with males most of the time. I just can't connect with females that well. I don't know why.

WOW this is totally me! I have mostly female friends and definitely prefer to be around women.

I have 3 sisters for reference.

My very best friend is a girl, but everyone thinks we've slept together. I would never ever cross that line with her and no one believes us

It also makes it hard to avoid the friend zone because I can't draw the line in the sand and say either romantic or nothing....

I've always been more comfortable with girls. I've had guy friends, but they are rarer and the friendships shorter. There's a competitiveness among guys that I don't do well with. Girls do the same with each other but, being a guy, I'm thankfully left out of it.

A couple guys here have mentioned having multiple sisters and no brothers. That's true of me as well (sort of, I have a brother but didn't grow up with him, didn't even meet him until I was 20), so that may be part of it.

I am sometimes due to me being more sensitive & not having a masculine personality. I hate sports, don't hunt, I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum so I don't share guys interest with getting laid or talking about hot women, I'm straight-edge & not social so I'm not into going to bars, I have a passive personality. when I was little I rathered girl activates during recess than guys like swinging & sometimes playing dolls with them sense dolls are similar to action figures in a way.

Generally, I feel that girls are more willing to listen and understand, which is why I feel I can relate to them better than some of the dudes I know.

In my opinion, guys tend to be more pig-headed and narrow minded.

I find I'm the opposite. - I'm generally a lot more comfortable around guys.

I have two younger sisters & was a closer to my mother prior to her passing away.

I think I feel awkward around women for the following reasons.

I'm just out of practice. Prior to college I was always in all boy's schools. I was very slow to understand the lad outlook & lad humor but towards the end of 12 years of it I can relate to it and get the funny side (though I sill wouldn't consider myself a typical guy.

My closest friends (and more or less my only friends) prior to college were guys; all quirky & eccentric like myself (though striking different).
anyway I think some guys can be good listeners & very good to talk to.

My best friend is an extremely sensitive guy. He can be irritatingly immature but when he puts in the effort he's an excellent listener.

Anyway since going to college I have formed a handful of close female relationships. I really value female friends & I think it's healthier to have a mix of male & female friends. However I find there's an awkwardness which can pop up when I hang out with women.

Part of it is a desire to make them happy, and worry about what impression I'm giving (I'm ur typical nice guy ) which (as someone pointed out above) can be impossible because women don't know what they want. I'm not so pushed about my guy friends, I have so many and can get on with them so easily that I don't really worry about how things go. If we fall out, no big deal, guys are a dime a dozen.
Were as to me every friendship with a girl is rare & precious so I put myself under a lot of pressure to get on with them.

The other issue is that as I get to know them I become attracted to them I think I fall for people very quickly which is awful because my track record in the romantic relationship department it awful [never had a girlfriend etc]. It really annoying because I just want to be close friends. I love intimacy (deep meaningful conversations) which women are more open to than most men, but I keep getting too attached.

Will the 'men and women can't just be friends' rule forever apply to me? Any tips for getting beyond this?

p.s. I'm probably stereotyping here; but does anyone else find women are more open to talk about emotions and personal issues but less wiling or interested in talking in dept about philosophy, politics and other high brow interests than men?

I think one of my biggest issues with NT attraction was me being too direct for us to understand each other. I'd make a move & get regected & told something about just being friends. I interprteted the rejection to mean that she wasn't interested & we could be friends at best. But what the NT really meant was lets be friends & see where it goes. They got real upset at me when I latter made coments about liking someone else or about trying to find someone. Another problem I have is that I sometimes don't suspect others are gay when it's obvious to most anyone else, I liked a couple lesbians because they were different & we were friends. Some also thought I was gay.

I think I'm most comfortable around women who are tomboyish and fun to be with. I like women but not super feminine women. I can't stand either "girl talk" or "guy talk".

I feel more comfortable with girls, too. There is a "barrier" that prevents too intimate contact and makes interacting more tolerable.
Women are often nicer and more polite than men.

I have very good relations with my mother and so-so relations with my father. I had very good relations with my grandfather, a tricky relation to my maternal grandmother and a poor relation with my paternal grandmother. No real relation with male or female cousins, uncle or aunts, and I have no siblings.

I have always liked females better than males. I notice them more, like them more, am drawn to them more (I don't mean in any romantic or sexual way here).
On the other hand, I usually have had more fun with males, especially when we were younger and played.
Now I'm not into males at all, because there is no more fun to be had with them, so I also like girls better and seek them out. It's usually easier to talk to females. I don't just mean talk about personal stuff, I mean they're easier to approach overall. I'm generally more comfortable around them.

I agree.

"Guy talk" is usually: talking about girls and their body properties, about how much drunk they were the night before and what things they did when they were drunk (esp. sexual stuff), cars, drugs, jokes about genitals, etc., often in a bragging fashion.

I'm not exactly sure what "girl talk" is, but when I'm around, they usually talk about how their spent their holidays, news in their life and experiences with other people (sometimes in a gossipy way but it's usually benign).

Guys are better for talking about math and computers, but for any other subject, I think it's obvious why I prefer talking to girls.

Lots of good points here. I, too, am more comfortable with nurturing personalities, with men or women who are not the typical alphas who are scheming to get tot he top by fighting or tearing others down. I am comfortable with people who talk thigns out and try to get along. I like baseball more than football, I'll watch the latter but mostly just to hang with friends who don't mind my goofyiness and are willing to be a little silly themselves.

Thing is, my family's kind of like that, too, in the guys that we have; they get teary easily, for instance. And, I was very close to my grandfather (never really knew my biol. dad). But, he, too, was the kind who was friendly and got along with everyone.

I think for me, then, it's more that the females are more willing to be open and talk about feelings and life experiences more. I notice when I write letters to friends who are out of state, I wind on about mine like the Victorian-era letter writers and before. I also ask about theirs, too, of course,a nd am careful to always joke about how long it's going to be, and sometimes how deep. ("Get the scuba gear out, antoher letter from (name)" I might joke at the start.

I've heard women use so many more words in a day than guys. I can't always verbalize what I want to say very well. But, at least when females talk (and, to their credit, the church guys I hang around) I know where things stand and what they're thinking about. With people who are overly quite I can't tell at all.

have you thought about dating guys?

Agreed!

I myself am more toward befriending girls only due that they really can understand you, but some don't... not to mention they're more better to befriend.