What to do after saying something stupid?

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14 Jun 2013, 3:45 pm

Ann2011 wrote:

I stop talking . . . if I've said something stupid than the chances of me saying something even more stupid are increased.

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14 Jun 2013, 5:12 pm

auntblabby wrote:

tcorrielus wrote:

It's always wise to say you're sorry for whatever it was that you said, and inform people that you didn't know that it was a very offensive or inappropriate thing to say. Promise them verbally that you will never say it again.

the only problem there is when your sleepy frontal lobes fail to pass on the message [or even be aware of anything wrong at the time] that you have committed a faux pas, until like a week later in the middle of the night when you bolt upright in bed and shout OH NO!! !

auntblabby, so true, yes, that is exactly what happens to me!! If I had a dollar for every time the "penny drops" a day later, a week later, that something I said was why the room went quiet or the person seemed mad at me, I'd be rich now. :lol:

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14 Jun 2013, 5:26 pm

Sometimes the penny drops for me several decades later.

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14 Jun 2013, 5:29 pm

What to do after saying something stupid?

I wait for her to say, "I do".

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14 Jun 2013, 6:07 pm

^^^
well, at least you didn't have to "practice every day to find some clever lines to say to make the meaning come through"

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14 Jun 2013, 8:00 pm

Fnord wrote:

What to do after saying something stupid?

I wait for her to say, "I do".

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15 Jun 2013, 2:17 am

Get a charming, neuro-typical partner who jumps in whenever your comments fall flat, your jokes go unnoticed or you say something potentially offensive.

No, you may not borrow mine.

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15 Jun 2013, 2:34 pm

Ann2011 wrote:

I stop talking . . . if I've said something stupid than the chances of me saying something even more stupid are increased.

I tend to do the same thing myself..it seems the easiest thing for me to do.

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17 Jun 2013, 8:47 pm

Ok, well, I'm not an Aspie (my son is), but I often wonder if I am! I say ridiculous things all the time. I've even lost friends and in those cases I can only think that I must've said something, but I have no idea what. Seriously. I should get diagnosed myself. Ugh. And the bolted up in bed later that night or days later is torture!

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17 Jun 2013, 8:49 pm

^^^
hiya ohboy welcome to our cool club
"it is better to keep silent and as a fool be thought, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."

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18 Jun 2013, 1:28 am

It depends on how serious the stupid question is.

If it is something like "what colour is my shirt?", you can use a joke or funny comment to laugh it off "e.g. im actually purple colour blind, so I didn't know it was purple"

however if it's something like "what is your name?" you should sincerely apologise for any ignorance on your part

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18 Jun 2013, 1:34 pm

In the past I had a habit of digging myself a hole so for me saying nothing is a good strategy. the conversation moves on and no hole gets dug.

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19 Jun 2013, 7:16 am

Personally, I wish I was a living cartoon character. Then I could self immolate without being hurt.

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