How social are you?

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I was wondering how my fellow aspies see the need of social interaction.

I'm quite curious about this too.

I have no friends but I really like it that way. Although the concept of friendship pressures me and makes me feel like a bad person. :S

I'm really not sure which one to check.

I have 3 friends plus a few "semi-friends" (I don't want to call them "close friends", though) plus a few "online friends". Social interaction isn't that much fun to me, but if I don't do it, I get even more lonely. If I was better at it, I'd be able to draw more enjoyment from it.

I have two friends and a boyfriend. The two friends are sisters, and I would sometimes go bowling with them on weekends. I also like texting my boyfriend every day, and even went on a date with him. Although there are times that I like to be alone socializing on the computer, with some help, I also try hard to plan my days with my friends, as well.

I have no friends but it'd be nice to have someone around to go to the movies or restaurants with.

I have 2 or 3 close friends, and many more friends that are not as close.

Plus I love chatting with people online in chatrooms or on forums.

As long as I know someone or that someone is behind a screen, I'm fine.

I just don't do well with face-to-face or irl meet-ups...

Other: I have a few close friends. I like other people for some chitchat and desire more but struggle to forge stronger social bonds.

I have a few close friends. I don't mind chit chat with folks I don't know well, as long as it's friendly. although I like people, indeed, my reason for existing is to help people, I need significant time alone to recharge.

I have 2 good friends and still feel really, really lonely.

I'm one of those without friends. I'm fine with that, and anyone who I meet, in person, should really just bugger off .

I spend a lot of time around other people, but I don't like social chitchat. I tend to talk to my friends about specific topics that we both find interesting and insightful. I prefer socializing with people who can tell me interesting things I can learn from and apply to my own life and I hope that my friends can benefit from my insight similarly. I also do structured, more task-oriented activities that involve people, such as sitting on boards of organizations, attending conferences, and networking with professionals in the field. I enjoy the act of back-and-forth with people, but only on an intellectual level. When people start getting emotional, social situations become very overwhelming and I often shut down. If there is no relational emotion involved, however, I can socialize indefinitely.

I've come to appreciate alone time somewhat after having to isolate myself for years. I do enjoy university, but often find that it is painful to force myself to be alone and study for such long periods of time. I'm an extrovert and like listening to myself talk. I also need to self-express to help me process information that I acquire. Study groups don't really work because I have to read stuff first before I can talk about it. Because I tend to be thorough with my readings, however, I end up having to explain everything to other people in the study group, so it's not intellectually stimulating enough as a result.

I have a few friends that are really close, and can tolerate social chitchat (I neither like or dislike it, but err on the side of disliking) as long as it's not too frequent and I can get my rest after.

I can chichat with some types of folks, those who are civil and broad-minded.

Looks like it is all over the map. I would probably say I have a few friends, but not too many.

There're few people I like and really enjoy being with. Such a thing is rare for me. I'm mostly interested in subjects NTs don't talk about much, and with them it mostly goes first accompanied by a lot of gossip, comments on someone's hair, etc. I like some NT fellow students for a nice chat or laugh, to sometimes have a drink in the afternoon, but nothing more.

More friends is always welcome, but not the ''standard NT type'' as they make me feel tired and bored too fast.

I struggle to answer this question as what is a friend? Someone you can chat to and go to the cinema with? That is what I call a friend, but many say that is just an acquaintance. I don't like people getting closer it makes me uncomfortable.

I should add though that I do feel lonely sometimes.