getting stressed, mad

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I guess alot of Aspies get more introverted when they get stressed out,
but I seem to completely lose my temper and treat people like s**t.
This gets me in alot of trouble.

Didn't happen before I graduated high school, but it probably has alot to
do with fighting as a kid and with my family.

Anyone ever get like this or know any way to avoid it?

I get really mean, and I don't know how to control it.

I get mad and destructive.

Yep. Really bad too. I found that the easiest thing to do is to identify the people who effect you, and cut them out of your life.

but alot of the time it is not necc. their fault..
If I did that i would cut everyone out...
Well currently my i have not been talking to my bandmate...(who also has neurolgical issues...lots of AS BP Schitotype..stuff)....because I got tired of how easily he would blow up at everything...and I am sensitive and it would really agitate me..creating this negative loop.....so i can't get into the pattern of interracting with him at all anymore.

In general i can get testy snappy tactless...with anyone for no good reason..but my own stress...mental agitation..etc...blah

I explode when people talk to me and I am stressed.

I've learned to mentally count to 10 and think before speaking, when what I really want to do is ream someone a new a--hole, (sorry, just thinking about being angry has hit a nerve). Sometimes an outburst can really burn some bridges -- one can apologize but the words can't be taken back and, unless one wins the lottery or was born wealthy, there's no way to totally avoid social interaction and still work, buy necesseties, etc.

I've worked for the same government agency for nearly 16 years and am one of only a handful who've been around that long and seen others come and go, so I'm fortunate that there's a core group, albeit a small one, that knows me and my peculiar habits very well. When I wake up angry at the world for absolutely no reason yet still need to go to work, my way of coping is to apologize in advance and just SAY I'm angry for no reason and ask my coworkers to please forgive me if I should say or do anything that seems snarky or mean, that it's MY issue and has nothing whatsoever to do with them.

im going to give that a try
seems like it would be good to avoid vague confusing stuff too