I accidetially offended a fellow aspie girl

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There was this gothic aspie girl I met last year on you tube which I tried to be friends with but I was afraid of being rejected due to tons of friendship rejections in those days, so I moved on. Later I had random occurring dreams with her which made me write a letter to her asking "why are those dreams happening to me?" and reestablish a friendship with her. I also made a you tube asking for people's answers and advices on what to do with those dreams. She took a look at them which she misunderstood them as "rejection letter and video" which easily offended her. I didn't have absolutely any intentions of making any negative remarks against her since I truly wanted to start a friendship with her since we both share most of the common interests and is an inspiration to me. Afterwards, the mystery behind those dreams was solved which came up with the conclusion that "deep in my subconscious of the brain, I truly missed her so much". What can I do resolve this situation since I really want to reestablish a friendship with her again and to not accidentally offend her once again?

Copy your post and present it to her. If I were to receive the explanation that you've shared with us, here, I'd understand completely, and I'd take you back, in a heartbeat... no questions asked. Honestly! Best wishes to you...

I sent her a letter this week which I'm still waiting for her reply but right now I've been feeling very depressed for what I've done. One of the most regretful decisions I ever made which was forgetting her due to fear of being rejected. I don't wanna repeat the same misunderstanding mistake in the future. I currently feel like I've been hit smack bottom which is a huge drag.

Do what delaSHANE said. Or copy and paste this pages url, or just say the same kind of thing but directly to her.

Thanks people for all your help people which I'm gonna take your advices very seriously.

Let us know the outcome. I hope it goes very well !

I'd forgive you with that explanation too.

let us know what happened? if it doesn't work, you did what we would all do, don't feel rejected at all!

I just made a apology video to her which in my mind, the best way to not only express your feelings but also emotions about how do you truly feel to the person being asked for forgiveness. One of the most bold move I made in my life.

Oh gosh, I especially despise drama created from misunderstanding/miscommunication (or just drama in general lol). When aware of it, my first action is to address the situation (while hoping everything is cleared up and that things return to normal). If I still sense a disturbance it bothers me, confuses the hell outta me, then I begin overanalyzing, picking apart every event to see where else I might have offended. Never do I figure the problem, so things go from bad to worse (person trying to avoid/ignore me). I apoligize and they feign ignorance (as if I did nothing wrong), then I go back to overanalyzing/confusion. It's like, damn, speak up. Be DIRECT, tell me what I said/did so we (or I) can fix the problem.

I react best to some level of assertiveness
It's possible I might intimidate people who don't know me well, but I promise I am harmless.
... Unless threatened or attacked.

Heh, don't mind me, just ranting, in relation to the topic. People who don't address issues really urk me (a "pet peeve" of mine I guess).

I didn't offer any direct advice because your situation is going to be resolved soon enough, from the advice already given by earlier posters. I can wish you a great outcome though, she'll understand.

Jubilation!! ! She forgive me and now is my Facebook friend thank God. Now the problem I was going through has come to an end!! ! Thank you all for your support and advices you guys gave me. I'm feeling so happy right.

Congratulations! You are most welcome, however, remember that you did the work, and resolved the matter. Very happy for you/your success! Enjoy! : )

Glad she accepted your apology and that it all worked out!