Derp wrote:
My roommate and I recently got into a heated argument about being more open with my condition. I've gotten to the point in my life where I can attend social events without panic attacks or meltdowns, I've had a steady job since high school and a regular group of friends, my condition is essentially nonexistant. As a result I prefer to only tell people I trust (he is among this group) because I'd rather be seen as an NT than someone on the spectrum and move on with my life. He believes I should be more open and unashamed about it and has brought it up (although in a positive light) with his friends and when I tell him I'd prefer that people didnt know about it, he tells me to quit using it as a crutch. They praise me up and down for coming as far as I have but I'd rather not be praised OR ridiculed for it, I just want to be seen as a person, not a person with a condition. Am I being overly sensitive or is this something I should put my foot down on?
I would think that using the condition as an excuse not to do something that you know you are fully capable of doing would be more of a 'crutch'.
Although, I am sometimes accused of using the condition as a 'crutch' by other people who think they know me better than I know myself....other people who are self-made 'psychiatrists' all of a sudden.
When I ask them to explain it because I don't understand, I find out that other people have certain 'expectations' of me and sometimes my aspies doesn't figure into these expectations....it becomes like; 'well,
I know that you are fully capable of doing such things...why is it that you do not?
So, I have reached the conclusion that the only one who knows whether you are self-indulging in your aspies is you.
23 May 2014, 11:50 pm
