any people of asian descent on this forum?

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I am an AJA.

I'm Chinese (although I can't speak the language(s))

My father was a Tibet/Burmese mix and my mother a German/Scot blend, and me, I think I'm Martian

My great-grandparents were from Lebanon and Syria (Western Asia).

Growing up one of the only Asians in an almost completely white town, I was unaware that anything was unusual about me except that I was Asian. I simply thought my differences were due to being Asian!

Now though, I know a lot more Asians, and I'm pretty sure I'm an aspie! It took me really really really long to figure that out. But I'm happy to know it now.

Here is a quote from an interesting blog post I found, "Ask the Yangxifu: Should I Tell Chinese Boyfriend I Have Asperger?s?"

I wonder what you all think of this observation?

Career and monetary success do seem to be a huge factor in acceptance of Asian adults by my parent's peers. So aspie or NT is not an issue, as long as aspie qualities are related to success and you are not horribly fat or slothful or suntanned .

Is this a common attitude?

my [very likely aspie] Japanese mother [RIP] told me I was "very stupid" for my aspie cluelessness. she thought of herself as very stupid also, sadly.

Half-Korean chiming in. Although I have copious amounts of love for my Korean mom, she has always been hypercritical of my aspie traits, believing that they're just "bad habits" I need to quit. She gives me frequent lectures on how my "habits" are holding me back from where I could be socially. I think much her attitude results from wanting me to be a daughter she'll be proud of, not only at home but in public as well.

Career success definitely gives someone a one-up in Asian social circles, but I'm don't think aspie qualities are always overlooked. As I mentioned above, mine were often pointed out. But there can be differing parenting attitudes even in the same culture. Maybe my mom just had her own ideas on how to raise me, apart from Asian culture.

Eurasian. My mum is Chinese and my fa is English.