How do go about being friends with someone with Asperger's?

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I'm 54 and I act much younger.

You're in your late 20's, and it's possible for you to act "youthful," too---it's a positive rather than a negative.

You also have the Screen Name "Hebe." Hebe was the Goddess of Youth in Ancient Greece.

I DO genuinely like him I never said I didn't otherwise I wouldn't be going through all this if I didn't. I mean honestly where have I stated I don't actually like him? The fact that I am even posting here should be proof enough that I don't have any bad intentions. I'm not the type of person who would do that to anyone. I'm not sure why you assume this but I assure you that is not the case at all. I guess it could be hard to believe that some people are actually sincere nowadays.

But why? He sounds like a real pain in the butt from everything you've written about him.

I believe everyone deserves to be loved and accepted for who they are isn't that how life is suppose to be?

Even people who abuse you and/or disrespect you? No, I disagree with that is how life is supposed to be. I think you're displaying codependent characteristics. I'm not talking to you like a teacher or preacher, I'm talking to you as someone who has been there myself. I spent a lot of time with unwell people because it made me feel like I had a purpose and was being helpful and kind. I was avoiding dealing with my own issues by dealing with someone else's. Just a thought.

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We all have our issues that's a part of life yes I do like helping others. I was raised to be nice to all people even those who may have mental illness. I don't feel like I'm codependent and this guy and I aren't even in a relationship.

I hope you two come to an understanding which will beneficial to you both.

I mean that.

Seems like you're trying to make it out as I have issues just because I wanted to be friends with a guy who has a mental disorder. I don't see how that's accurate I even explained my reasoning. A lot of people treat those with mental illness badly and I know this for a fact they neglect them.

You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to display codependent characteristics. I do hope you work it all out. He doesn't seem very nice to you, and I don't know why you would want to pursue a friendship with someone who isn't kind. Being autistic doesn't mean being a dick. Best of luck.

Being autistic means you're a human being--and that you should act like one.

There's no excuse for an autistic person to be a nasty person.

I'm not trying to heal anyone trust me.

So what's wrong with wanting to heal someone?

I happen to believe the desire to heal someone when they are hurt is a primal human instinct.

Studies have shown that even people of toddler age (and younger) are capable of empathy, and of wanting to heal someone who is hurt.

Yes I understand this is why I told him I was done with him. I won't be answering anymore of his calls either.

I don't think it's possible to actually "heal" someone I mean sometimes you have to accept a person for who they are.

I think you're missing the point. I don't mean "healing" in that sense.

I mean "healing" in the sense of being a good friend to a person, listening to that person, trying to offer advice to that person.

Where did you get the idea that I wanted to "change" anybody?

I know exactly what you meant when you said "healing"