Questions to ask people about themselves

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Hello, I’m a college age man and I often have people try to talk to me(primarily beautiful women), but I usually just answer any question/remark then stay silent unless I have something that I feel is supremely worthwhile or relevant to say. Basically, all my conversations are super short unless the individual wishes to interrogate me which gets boring very quickly as I'm not super talkative. One way to compensate for this is to ask people questions about themselves in return then let them talk and then question further/flatter/respond from there as needed.

So, my question is: What good questions can I ask people about themselves?

Where are you from?

What's your passion?

What's your favorite thing in life?


These can be asked after they say something:
Why?

Really?

Oh?

How did that make you feel?

I'd agree with Alex, above.
However I tend not to be interested in conversations that are inane. If I'm asking someone about themselves, which I tend to do to avoid them asking me questions (I dislike and often refuse to answer personal questions, and as doing so is considered rude, I try to stop it from happening in the first place) I tend to go for topics with meat. Such as suggested above - what's their passions in life, what drives them, what their dreams are and why. If they're in a specified job or area of study, or I meet them in a specific circumstance with a specific reason behind it such as a rally or interest group, I will question them all about that and encourage them to tell all about it, while avoiding bringing up me altogether. I've been told this is "intense," but not unwelcome.

I would ask questions about things that are relevant to the immediate moment or everyday life. Like if you are having a drink with someone, ask if they like the drink they are having, what's their favorite drink, what's the first drink they ever had. If you have a class together, ask what they think of the teacher. Ask if they have seen any good movies lately, what's your favorite movie. Ask about practical things that you can relate to.

I would advise against asking big, open-ended questions in the hope that the other person is going to take over and do most of the talking. It puts the other person on the spot and it can make them feel very uncomfortable.