Summer_Twilight wrote:
I have a friend who I have known for two years and we always have a great time hanging out one on one. He has always been very nice and generous. I have tried to integrate into my other circle of friends but all I get is.
1. "Don't get me wrong I think your friends are good people but I would rather hang out on a one on one basis. I don't do large groups very well." - He runs a meet up group and seems to just fine.
2. He also seems to have no problem with other organized events or mingling with other people.
3. He seemed to clique well with three other people at a gaming and anime convention who held a special interest.
- He ran off with them all weekend while seeming to take little notice or interest in meeting up for a panel or two or go out to lunch. (This was the first time he was this nasty to be around)
4. He also seems to complain about how my friends get on his nerves because they did or said something that he didn't like or how he prefers females to males.
A. How should I talk to him and what should I say?
B. Are these excuses?
1) Running a group and hanging out with people are totally different. Sounds accurate to me.
2) Again, an organized event with clear expectations and norms. Not loose social interactions.
3) Again, organized event with norms. Also, given the special interests, if he's on the spectrum, it would be very easy to lose track of time/other friends/etc., only to notice this later. Probably not intentional. Honestly, he probably didn't consider anything other than his excitement at the event.
4) Preferring females to males isn't all that unusual. I very much enjoy the company (non sexual) of females to males. I'm not sure why expressing his displeasure over another person's words is a problem. Do you think his ideas are wrong, or just don't like the fact that he expresses his feelings?
Overall, I don't see anything that alarming or unusual here.
A) Like a person. "Hi"
B) no
08 Oct 2015, 7:46 am
