Why do people think I'm innocent?

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I think there's probably some truth in that. Sometimes I'll say a swear word or make an innuendo and people who don't know me act extremely shocked. I rarely speak, especially in unfamiliar company, and I think that does make people think I'm "innocent". It's especially prevalent in the way some people speak to me as if I'm several years younger than my actual age.

If they think you're "innocent" or "cute", that's their problem, not yours. Let them.

Hi Am, I'd like to give you my NT point of you.

I work with Aspies and am in a relationship with one, and what I find really "innocent" (it's the wrong word, yes, but it's just the wrong interpretation of your nature) is when they start telling me about super personal issues (nightmares, obsessions, what they told the shrink and so on) in the most natural way.

Most of you guys just say things the way they are. No second/double meanings.
This is unconceivable for a paranoid NT, constantly worried about what people might think of him/her.

I personally adore this side of Aspies.

Idk but people think the same thing about me and have misconceptions because they think I look cute and prim, or I look blank. I got passed up for a job I'm pretty sure because they thought I couldn't deal with cussing. Because I looked innocent. It's like I seriously can handle it, I cuss all the time, I'm just not cussing now because I'm at some place I want to work and that would be unprofessional.

I think a lot of people assume too if they know me vaguely (but not well, because if they did they'd know I cuss and say gross sexual things a lot lol), probably due to how i look and the fact that I keep to neutral, appropriate topics and am kind of naive in terms of how much I trust people.

I know the feeling. In my case, it's a combination of my short stature, my babyface, and my extroversion. They usually change their minds when I start actually talking, because I speak very very formally, and I'm extremely pedantic.

People usually want to appear like they know more than others (which is opposed to curiosity), they care for their social appearance (which is opposed to honesty), they care for themselves (as opposed to benevolence).

They consider that being mature is to show they know it all, that they are superior and that they possess more and have power, and are attractive. If you are mature but curious, honest, modest and humble, always ready to help, they will perceive you as "innocent" and there are chances they will make fun of you and take advantage of you.

I think it is good to socially hide your honesty, show off (indirectly) like them, pretend you won't help so easily.

Have the same issue I'm in my late 20s but I can past for 15. Had a doctors appointment the other day and the nurse asked me where my mom was lol

I see the womem at my job talking about drinking and what not and never ask me. I never drink in my life however people always act surprise when I curse though...must be the baby face.

I think people associate shyness with innocence; I used to get this a lot when I was in school.

People think I'm younger than I am because I look 15, I still play with toys, I don't know how teenagers and adults differ in the way they talk so if I don't use the sort of long words I like to use which get people moaning that I use them then I sound like a teenager, I like to watch Disney movies and stuff like that.

And we follow the rules which NTs don't and worry about not breaking the rules, even the smaller rules.

Also I just am innocent. If an NT woman my age was to date me, she could easily take advantage because I'm very young for my age in terms of understanding intentions of people etc. The same with friendships. I'm like a younger person socially.

It's taken a while to realise this because intellectually I've been an adult since before I even hit double figures. I read Orwell, Kafka and Huxley when I was 9. I had a reading age of 17 when I was 7. It was tough for mum because she had to know which books to give me - something which was intellectually challenging to read but also something which was suitable for a 9 year old. I wonder if this is why so many aspies get into Victorian literature and similar to this.

I know I'm talking about me but I'm doing that to give an example of why people think aspies are innocent in hopes that you can relate to some of it. All you're asking is 'why do people think I'm innocent' and it could be all sorts of things.

I sometimes get called "cute" or "innocent" too, especially from other women. I don't really mind it though, even if it's a little uncomfortable sometimes. I never think of myself that way, since I'm far from innocent.

I suppose that my social awkwardness and anxious mannerisms might be the cause. I have a childlike wonder and excitement about mundane things, like a favorite movie or cartoon or song. I think as aspies our more childlike natures can be seen as innocent by many people, particularly maternal people.