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27 Jun 2016, 1:07 pm

There must be a better way than saying "bye...bye...bye..." until the other person hangs up. But I really struggle with the sign-offs



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27 Jun 2016, 1:54 pm

"Gotta go! Bye!" < Hang up >


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27 Jun 2016, 1:56 pm

But what if I offend them by hanging up at the wrong time!



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27 Jun 2016, 2:07 pm

I just say, "Alright, well I'm gonna let you go." (My parents use this one a lot, and I find it's pretty effective at communicating that I want to end the conversation while still maintaining politeness. It also gives them a chance to say anything else they wanted to say during the conversation before I say "goodbye") I can use that one just about any time, as long as they're not in the middle of saying something. Then they usually say, "Okay, take care," or something to that effect, and then I will say goodbye and so will they. I think avoiding any hesitation at the end is key. When you say "Goodbye," just hang up right away and end it. :P



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27 Jun 2016, 6:42 pm

lordfakename wrote:
There must be a better way than saying "bye...bye...bye..." until the other person hangs up. But I really struggle with the sign-offs


I do the exact same thing, they go "bye" i go "bye" then "bye" again..........it sort of feels awkward i guess.

I think its sort of best to let them lead it, like i generally follow on from what their doing. kinda works i guess.


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27 Jun 2016, 7:25 pm

catunderfoot wrote:
I just say, "Alright, well I'm gonna let you go." (My parents use this one a lot, and I find it's pretty effective at communicating that I want to end the conversation while still maintaining politeness. It also gives them a chance to say anything else they wanted to say during the conversation before I say "goodbye") I can use that one just about any time, as long as they're not in the middle of saying something. Then they usually say, "Okay, take care," or something to that effect, and then I will say goodbye and so will they. I think avoiding any hesitation at the end is key. When you say "Goodbye," just hang up right away and end it. :P


I say exactly the same thing! It really works well and doesn't come across as rude. :)



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27 Jun 2016, 9:25 pm

I usually just come up with some excuse to leave. "Well, I gotta' go [insert activity here], see ya' later."


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27 Jun 2016, 11:12 pm

I usually tell say, " I guess I'll let you go". Something that makes me uncomfortable is telling someone that I love them before hanging up, but I feel like I should if they said it first.



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28 Jun 2016, 7:15 am

...by not answering it in the first place.



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28 Jun 2016, 7:38 am

I always say: "I hope you have a nice day. Talk to you soon." if it's a friend. It's a script--but I find it's an effective one.

If it's a telemarketer, I just hang up.



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30 Jun 2016, 1:14 pm

I shall try the "I'll let you go now" thing, that might work better



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30 Jun 2016, 1:20 pm

I sometimes say, "later," "see ya," "see ya later," instead of the usual "bye." In most formal phone calls I would say "Thank you, bye." just out of courtesy though.



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30 Jun 2016, 3:43 pm

Are you in the UK? It seems to be a very British habit to say "Bye, bye, bye, bye" multiple times until hanging up.

I just initiate the heads-up by starting with "Well, been lovely chatting, I gotta let you go but take care for now okay?"

And they will usually say "Oh okay yeah you take care too, talk soon!" And then I'll say "Okay then bye bye!" I wait to hear them say Bye too, then I just hang up.

Basically my yardstick for when to hang up is when both myself and the person have had a chance to exchange one "Bye!" each. That's enough to hang up on.