What are the hints?
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I believe if you press left left right right up down square you get the hints....
i think the hints are much like what Summer_Twilight said, they pretend to be your friend or friendly to you, but you know they are just trying to learn things about you so they can embarass or talk about you behind your back because they constantly complain about other people or tell you things other people have told them that maybe you shouldn't know.... just to embarass them, so its safe to assume that they are doing the same to you
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It can be hard to tell. I think a big hint is a lack of genuine curiosity about your life, or willingness to engage in normal conversation with you (about video games, school, sports whatever.)
If it is confined to pleasentries (basic "hey how are you") even if the people seem "nice" or "friendly" it is a fair or reasonable indication that they may not like you that much, or really care to get to know you better.
You can tell a "polite person" from a potential friend by the amount or depth of conversation you have with them.
If there is more of actual discussion about (whatever topic) or a real interst in you or your life, that is a helpful hint about a person being a potential friend
You also have more subtle situations where you would never guess that the other party talks behind until they talk to someone who associates with you on a regular basis.
1. A former close friend had an entire group of friends and family who fooled me into thinking that I felt welcome. Yet when I was not around they complained about me.
a. I talked too much and dominated the conversations
b. I enjoyed being the center of attention
c. I was envious of my ex-friend over certain things when I hit a rough spot
d. I walked ahead of my friend and their spouse
e. I was too bubbly
f. I was too hyper
h. I got mad at my ex-friend too often
I. Age difference
It was devostating but I have learned to accept that people like that are miserable people
1) They spend very little actual time with you.
2) They always seem to be anxious to be somewhere else when they're with you.
3) They talk about how great their other friends are, and the activities they've shared.
4) They rarely, if ever, invite you to participate in activities with their other friends.
5) They rarely, if ever, introduce you to their other friends.
6) Their other friends ignore you when you're around.
7) Their other friends exclude you from their activities.
8) They seek you out only when they need something from you.
9) They rarely, if ever, return favors or things that they've "borrowed" from you.
10) They make promises with you, and them break them regularly.
11) They are never there for you when you need them.
12) They mock your habits, clothing, interests, movements, and/or way of speaking.
13) They are quick to "ditch" you for their other friends.
14) They rarely, if ever, return your calls, emails, or text messages.
15) You overhear them sharing gossip about an un-named "someone" who sounds suspiciously like you.
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T minus 82 and counting.
Other hints...
1. They boast about getting together with everyone but you. Conversations going something along the lines of
Them: (Pretending to be excited to see you) Hey how was your weekend?
You: It was nice and laid back?
Them: What did you do?
You: I did some chores and then did some work for school
Them: Well guess what I went to see Star Trek beyond with our other friends.
You: I wish you would have invited me
Them: We didn't have your number on us and we know that you are a student so we did not invite you
2. They invite you one minute and then rip the invitation because they claim that one of the other people in the group really like you but don't want you with over some flaw.
3. The gossips in the group can boast about how much fun they had together or they make their plans in front of you and ignore you if you wonder if you are even invited
4. They tell your closer friends not to invite you to their things
1) They spend very little actual time with you.
2) They always seem to be anxious to be somewhere else when they're with you.
3) They talk about how great their other friends are, and the activities they've shared.
4) They rarely, if ever, invite you to participate in activities with their other friends.
5) They rarely, if ever, introduce you to their other friends.
6) Their other friends ignore you when you're around.
7) Their other friends exclude you from their activities.
They seek you out only when they need something from you.
9) They rarely, if ever, return favors or things that they've "borrowed" from you.
10) They make promises with you, and them break them regularly.
11) They are never there for you when you need them.
12) They mock your habits, clothing, interests, movements, and/or way of speaking.
13) They are quick to "ditch" you for their other friends.
14) They rarely, if ever, return your calls, emails, or text messages.
15) You overhear them sharing gossip about an un-named "someone" who sounds suspiciously like you.
That's a great list. Excellent reply to OP.
Thank God I was not friends with popular people in high school or college, geeze that is a nightmare.
Especially what they did to this one girl that I sat away from a lot.
Everyone is a dick no matter what.
Your closest friends accept you as the hugest dick imaginable and still are there for you without the need of correcting your dickish behavior.
Congrats there is the secret.
1) They spend very little actual time with you.
2) They always seem to be anxious to be somewhere else when they're with you.
3) They talk about how great their other friends are, and the activities they've shared.
4) They rarely, if ever, invite you to participate in activities with their other friends.
5) They rarely, if ever, introduce you to their other friends.
6) Their other friends ignore you when you're around.
7) Their other friends exclude you from their activities.
They seek you out only when they need something from you.
9) They rarely, if ever, return favors or things that they've "borrowed" from you.
10) They make promises with you, and them break them regularly.
11) They are never there for you when you need them.
12) They mock your habits, clothing, interests, movements, and/or way of speaking.
13) They are quick to "ditch" you for their other friends.
14) They rarely, if ever, return your calls, emails, or text messages.
15) You overhear them sharing gossip about an un-named "someone" who sounds suspiciously like you.
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T minus 82 and counting.
This list is a very accurate description of the way my former "best friend" treated me, haha. We are "still friends" anyway - as much as we ever were, I suppose - we just don't see each other much because she moved quite a distance away.
Wow. Isn't that something! Hints! She must have thought I was the thickest person ever, missing all those hints.
I have a few other hints:
1. They contact your friends and tell them not to invite you to their things.
2. They are nice to you when you are alone but ignore you in front of their other friends.
3. You hear from other people that this "Friend" and their group "Dislike or hate you."
4. Other people will believe that you are either a liar or delusional as they often hear that this person and their friends hate you and claim to have never talked to you.
"I don't know where this information is coming because I hate them. As you know they have some special issues where they like to pretend. They also lie all the time as well."